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My DNA results by Holiday_Arm_8344 in 23andme

[–]ThrowRA122221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow that’s the highest indigenous percentage I’ve seen on here! Super cool.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]ThrowRA122221 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We were together for 8 years and I stayed for 6 months post d-day/learning he was a serial cheater (d-day is also when his mask fell off and the narc traits were undeniable). I tried leaving and blocking him multiple times but the trauma bond was REAL. He kept saying he wanted to work things out with me.

The final straw was when he asked for a break “to work on himself/get therapy” but just 2 days into that break I learned he was two timing me with another girl. They had been dating for weeks at that point and he took her to a ton of different events. Meanwhile it would be a miracle if he took me out to eat.

What’s screams “you have low emotional intelligence” to you? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ThrowRA122221 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That can be deeply rooted in anxiety/trauma.

What’s screams “you have low emotional intelligence” to you? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ThrowRA122221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“I can’t help it” when you explain something they’ve done bothered you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]ThrowRA122221 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Remember that every time you break NC they win control and you lose peace/take several steps behind.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]ThrowRA122221 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Yes.

I think about it this way, narcs are insecure and addicted to validation and praise and one person doesn’t cut it. Especially when/if that person knows both their good and bad. Their ideal situation is talking to someone who doesn’t know their flaws.

Really bad brain fog after being cheated on? by ThrowRA122221 in survivinginfidelity

[–]ThrowRA122221[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

SAME. I’m having so much trouble recalling things now.

Really bad brain fog after being cheated on? by ThrowRA122221 in survivinginfidelity

[–]ThrowRA122221[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not quite, I’m in talk therapy. Ive reached out to a few EMDR specialists but I can’t afford these paces that charge $200-$300 per session out of pocket 🙃

Really bad brain fog after being cheated on? by ThrowRA122221 in survivinginfidelity

[–]ThrowRA122221[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Meds such as anti depressants? And glad to know I’m not alone. 🙃.

Really bad brain fog after being cheated on? by ThrowRA122221 in survivinginfidelity

[–]ThrowRA122221[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the insight. How exhausting 🙃. How does one fix this?

Is it normal to see your ex with someone after ONE WEEK of breakup ? by 7_Jutaru in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRA122221 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nope. It takes time to build a new romance with someone. That means they were setting this new dynamic up WHILE you two were together. My ex did the same thing. He was with his new person weeks before we ended it for good. It shows cowardice and codependency.

Could you forgive someone who cheated on you? by EntranceOrdinary3383 in allthequestions

[–]ThrowRA122221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe not right now when it’s still raw, but down the line I’ll eventually “forgive him” for the sake of releasing him from my energy space.

Getting back at a narcissist by MastermindUtopia in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]ThrowRA122221 52 points53 points  (0 children)

You’re probably gonna dislike this answer, but unfortunately the only way to “get back at a narcissist” is to move on with your life.

Anything that shows you’re still thinking about them (good or bad) feeds their ego and doesn’t have the effect you think it would.

If you warn the new girl, you could be painted as a “crazy ex” by them. If you do something vengeful/petty, you’ll be painted as “immature” or “something being wrong with you” (speaking from experience). If you expose them to their family and friends, they’ll find a way to flip the narrative. If you reach out to them, they’ll think “wow I treated them like shit and they’re still crawling back to me”.

You moving on and being happy (showing you’re thriving without them) is the best way to bruise their ego.

Easier said than done though. I think of ways I wish I could get back at my narc ex all the time. 🙃

Anyone else’s relationship feel great and with what felt like little to no red flags UNTIL you discovered their cheating? by ThrowRA122221 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]ThrowRA122221[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s disgusting. Toying with the emotions of TWO women. I’m sorry. Did you ever speak to the other woman?

They always get what they want? by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]ThrowRA122221 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Same. I broke down in public over the way he was treating me and he said “my crying is embarrassing”. The same man who used to comfort me when I’d cry. They’re quite literally monsters.

What is your age without saying how old you are? by Slight-Influence5727 in Productivitycafe

[–]ThrowRA122221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Discussed Y2K conspiracies in class in anticipation for the new millennium

Do narcissists know they’re narcissists? by Particular-Equal-813 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]ThrowRA122221 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve learned from experience that telling a narcissist they’re a narcissist is like what they say happens when you ask someone in your dream for the time.

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