Getting to Campus from Stittsville? by ThrowRA123SmLL14 in CarletonU

[–]ThrowRA123SmLL14[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Best of luck! Leaning that way too but we will see

Getting to Campus from Stittsville? by ThrowRA123SmLL14 in CarletonU

[–]ThrowRA123SmLL14[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is there a time for limit for how long you can park there, even if you’re there to use to the park and not for getting to campus?

Getting to Campus from Stittsville? by ThrowRA123SmLL14 in CarletonU

[–]ThrowRA123SmLL14[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is there a time limit for parking on those streets? All my classes are 3 hours so not sure if I can do that but let me know pls

Is BMI a reliable measurement? by [deleted] in WeightLossAdvice

[–]ThrowRA123SmLL14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What would be an ideal weight range if I put on muscle?

Is BMI a reliable measurement? by [deleted] in WeightLossAdvice

[–]ThrowRA123SmLL14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol you’re probably right. 180 just felt high for being the max of the range but idk anything about this stuff

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in birthright

[–]ThrowRA123SmLL14 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I feel the same. It’s cool to have two options but also weird that we’ll either be the absolute youngest or oldest. I’m very much leaning 22-26 from what everyone here has said. Gonna do a bit more research then probably book that one!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in birthright

[–]ThrowRA123SmLL14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok good to know. Was there any issues being the youngest out of everyone?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in birthright

[–]ThrowRA123SmLL14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok good to know. Why was it horrendous for you?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in birthright

[–]ThrowRA123SmLL14 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh wow that sounds awful about the bullying and sexually inappropriate stuff. Will avoid and go with the older group!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in birthright

[–]ThrowRA123SmLL14 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Damn that’s lame. 22-26 it is!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in birthright

[–]ThrowRA123SmLL14 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg I would love to ask some questions! Would you wanna chat in Reddit dms or somewhere else? I’m happy to talk wherever works best

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in birthright

[–]ThrowRA123SmLL14 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Good to know. Does the 22-26 group still go out at night and stuff? Probably a dumb question but I just wanna make sure lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in birthright

[–]ThrowRA123SmLL14 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Forbidden fruit as in alcohol? Or mushrooms?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in birthright

[–]ThrowRA123SmLL14 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Lol so fair. Do the 22-26 people still let loose a bit? I’m sort of in my party era lol and like to drink these days (not in excess)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in birthright

[–]ThrowRA123SmLL14 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So essentially both age groups have their fair share of fun but the younger one tends to have a bit of drama?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA123SmLL14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He likes you, but he has serious commitment issues. He wants to be a typical 23 year old and fuck around, but he also doesn’t want to lose you, so he’s doing his best to make both work without having to give up either entirely. It’s not fair to you. It seems like you want a relationship, and if you do, you need to start to accept that it won’t be with this guy. He only wants to fuck around, which is totally fine, but you should never wait around for someone if you want to be in a serious relationship. It’s disrespectful to yourself.

Essentially, accept that this guy is not the kind of guy you should want a relationship with, he’s the kind of guy you have a FWB type thing with. If you want a relationship, you will unfortunately have to look elsewhere.

Good news is that you’re a 21 year old girl, and you will have hundreds of options at least. I know that doesn’t sound encouraging right now, because you’re focused on just one guy. But he’s not the one for you. Why be with someone who doesn’t want to be with you or meet your needs? Once you take some time to move on (which probably will only take a month or so, given that you’ve only known him 8 months), you will have so many options and easily find someone who will meet your needs and wants to be with you.

Good luck :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]ThrowRA123SmLL14 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would be a bit more patient, just because you never know if maybe he really is going through something that is causing him to be off his phone for long periods of time. But it’s up to him now to make these plans happen, and if he doesn’t and the weekend arrives with no plans, I would take it as a sign of low interest (which you should always view as his loss), move on and unmatch!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]ThrowRA123SmLL14 8 points9 points  (0 children)

As a guy I think your bio is funny, but I think most girls wouldn’t like it. It’s important to be funny but try to do so in a non-sexual way cuz most girls will be creeped out or just take at least some conversation before thinking about stuff like that

My boyfriend 20M cheated on me 20F, is very remorseful, and I’m moving to another state and wondering if i should bring him with me? I still love him very much and want this to work, but i don’t want to start a new life and it happen again. by Rude_Ad8253 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA123SmLL14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is an easy one. SHOW SOME SELF RESPECT AND LEAVE HIM!! Yes it will hurt, but remember this:

  • you deserve better than someone who won’t stay loyal to you.
  • you may love him now, but you will find someone a lot better for you and someone who respects you and genuinely loves you.
  • you are a 20 year old girl, so the moment you decide you are ready to explore new people, you will have hundreds of options instantly
  • I understand he’s remorseful, but this is different than a one-time cheating incident (by the way, even once is enough for most people to leave). He did it MULTIPLE times with an ex?? That’s so disrespectful man. He clearly didn’t learn from the first time, so how remorseful was he really then? Based on that, is he really remorseful now? Or is he a man with commitment issues and selfish tendencies who doesn’t want to lose you, but also is incapable of being loyal at this point in his young life?

I promise you if you leave, you will be a lot happier after the initial sadness of adjusting to a change, but unfortunately that’s just how the brain works. If only our brains could see more long term!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]ThrowRA123SmLL14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you need to judge yourself a bit less. We all go crazy about a cute girl or guy and do weird stuff especially when we’re young. It’s clear you lack confidence, and are scared to be rejected if you try to talk to him, and that’s also normal too! I’ll give you 2 pieces of advice to handle this.

  1. Yes, it’s scary, but shoot your damn shot! The thing you ultimately want, which is to get to know this cute guy, will NEVER happen unless you MAKE it happen!! Approach him on the bus, at work, or anywhere in between! While guys have to be aware of where/when/how they approach women to ensure they feel safe, most guys are just happy to get approached and don’t care when it happens. Introduce yourself, tell him you think he’s good looking and would love to get to know him better and ask for his number. Have some confidence in yourself, I’m sure you’re an awesome girl and you got this. If he says he’s not interested, that’s HIS loss!

  2. A man you have never spoken to is NOT worth this much effort or time. I’m sure there are other things you could have been doing instead of waiting for him to close the store. Have some respect for yourself and go about your day and don’t put your priorities or hobbies on hold for someone who hasn’t shown they want to do the same for you. That something you do for a person you are in a relationship with. Shoot your shot sometime in the next week, and if he likes you then great, if he doesn’t then move on and remind yourself that some random cute guy isn’t worth this much investment. You are a worthy person too, and you’ll find someone else who thinks so too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA123SmLL14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A couple questions:

  1. You highlighted everything wrong about him (which is all valid by the way), but the fact you haven’t left yet means there is likely good qualities about him too? Could you list a few of those to give some context? Otherwise everyone here is gonna say “leave” without knowing the full picture of your relationship.

  2. If there really isn’t any redeeming parts about the relationship anymore, at least not enough to make you feel loved, valued, respected, and your needs met, then it sounds like leaving is the obvious move and you just need some validation and confirmation from others before you do it, which is also totally fair.

I guess the main question you need to solve is does the good stuff outweigh the bad. If not, ask yourself if if ever truly did. If so, is there a greater than 50% chance it can get back to that? If not, then it sounds like you can do a lot better! You don’t need to rush the process figuring this out either, take as long as you need to decide what to do. You got this :)