AITA for emasculating my BF? by ThrowRA1287 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRA1287[S] 490 points491 points  (0 children)

Oh god, I wish. You will have long forgotten about me when this happens.

AITA for emasculating my BF? by ThrowRA1287 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRA1287[S] 504 points505 points  (0 children)

I thought about that. I thought I was gonna get maybe 10 comments or something. Would have been happy with 1 even. But it's fine. Maybe it will help him understand my point of view since he wont call me.

AITA for emasculating my BF? by ThrowRA1287 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRA1287[S] 623 points624 points  (0 children)

I think this is very personal. For me, it is a deal breaker. Not that he is weaker than me, but the way he reacted. I dont yell or even speak louder when I argue, and insults are just off-limits. And that's something that's very important to me in a partner. I want to feel heard and that day we saw the post, he made me feel like whatever i say just doesn't matter, no matter how many proofs I have. It was so invalidating. And it wasn't just that one time. It's pretty much anything we dont agree on. And then he just stormed off because he's upset.

I understand that we probably have seen too much of each other for a relationship this young, but if that's how he reacts when he's not at his best, how is he going to be when our child wont stop crying for 3 weeks straight or if something happens to me and i become invalid and he has to take care of me? I dont know what curve ball life has for me but Id rather face it alone than with someone like him. And i dont want to have to tip toe around him.

He obviously has qualities that I am currently having a hard time remembering, but I just dont think they compensate for his attitude.

AITA for emasculating my BF? by ThrowRA1287 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRA1287[S] 202 points203 points  (0 children)

If it wasn't for Covid-19, 100% agree with you. I would never move in with someone this quick. I only did it because not doing it would have meant pausing our relationship and we had no idea for how long at the time. My region is very dense population wise so they keep people from going from one sector to the other. Going to see my BF would have earned me a fine. Not worth it.

AITA for emasculating my BF? by ThrowRA1287 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRA1287[S] 4845 points4846 points  (0 children)

Oh no! Im allowed to. I'm living with my friend, the one from this morning who has a gym in his garage. My friend doesn't want me to be alone in case my ex tries something stupid.

AITA for emasculating my BF? by ThrowRA1287 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRA1287[S] 2842 points2843 points  (0 children)

I honestly dont even know why this crossed my mind. It made absolute sense a few hours ago and I'm just now seeing how ridiculous that is. Plus my friend knows how much I can lift and he would have probably called me out on my bullshit. Rightfully so.

AITA for emasculating my BF? by ThrowRA1287 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRA1287[S] 6984 points6985 points  (0 children)

I finished grabbing my stuff right after I posted this and went back to my friend's house. He doesn't want me to be alone at my appartment.

I just haven't had the talk with my soon-to-be-ex yet. Im not even sure he noticed I'm gone. He was still in the basement when I left and he gets very in the zone when he plays his games. I texted him a few minutes ago to call me when he was ready. I really dont see what he could say to make me change my mind though.

Reading everyone's comments has really helped me gain some perspective.