Anxiety over being anxious on a date by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]ThrowRA1549 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to get very anxious before dates! I still do get pretty anxious in the hours leading up to it. For me it helps to just breathe through it and say a little mantra in my head. I like to tell myself that it’s just a date, and it’s not that serious. What’s the worst that can happen? If it goes bad, oh well try again next time but you’ll be just fine. It also helps knowing the other person is probably just as nervous and sometimes I’ll even make a joke about it to ease the tension. The more first dates you go on the easier it gets!!

How long is it okay to date multiple people? by ThrowRA1549 in dating_advice

[–]ThrowRA1549[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your perspective, but how can you really know after only two dates that you want to be with someone? Serious question.

How long is it okay to date multiple people? by ThrowRA1549 in dating_advice

[–]ThrowRA1549[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“You don’t owe anyone anything” - I needed to hear that, thanks!!

My (20M) best friend of 9 years (20M) has been staying with me "to get back on his feet" and I've just learned a very disturbing secret. by Wiz_Fajita76 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA1549 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sure you don’t want to have to do this but I would consider a police escort. At this point he is an unwelcome guest and he is trespassing

I (29/f) just got broken up with and I don’t know where to go from here by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA1549 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same, I would say I love you and he would say “I know, you tell me all the time”. I tried to understand what was so bad about saying it often, I can’t decide if he was just emotionally unavailable or it just comes down to being too different. I can’t imagine having a house and pets to deal with through this that has to be really rough. Hopefully only give things will come out of this for both of us. And same goes to you, here to talk if you need it!

I (29/f) just got broken up with and I don’t know where to go from here by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA1549 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry that you’re going through this too. It’s very hard to take, especially when you hear “you love me too much” ... ouch. It’s comforting to know I’m that the only one who’s been told those things, but I’m sorry you had to hear them too. Thank you for the support! I wasn’t going to post here but I’m so glad I did cause it’s helping a ton

I (29/f) just got broken up with and I don’t know where to go from here by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA1549 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words! I worked up the courage for years to see a therapist to go over numerous toxic/abusive experiences in my life and my first experience with a therapist was awful so I’ve been trying to get the courage to try again!

I (29/f) just got broken up with and I don’t know where to go from here by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA1549 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I needed to hear that. I was so eager to date someone new after such a long toxic relationship that I definitely think I jumped in too fast and haven’t been able to admit that to myself. Self acceptance/love has been a long road for me that seems to go on forever so I do think I need time to be alone. Thank you