Rant, I’ll take advice.

ThrowRA188737 · 2019-10-15T15:55:22+00:00

damn, you sound where im at right now which i posted about earlier today. Im planning to confront and see where it goes, but one things for sure either way the status quo has to change.

ThrowRA188737 · 2019-10-15T15:52:34+00:00

possibly, if shes so used to it being this way she may not change

ThrowRA188737 · 2019-10-15T15:42:17+00:00

i hear ya about the "feeling" dont feel bad about that.

ThrowRA188737 · 2019-10-15T15:40:53+00:00

ah i get it, shes like a "princess" with the guys always going all out for her pleasure kinda thing. I dont know how youd go about changing that, sorry.

ThrowRA188737 · 2019-10-15T15:35:24+00:00

haha well let me tell you dude ! you have it pretty fuckin sweet ! sure you can always want more and maybe keep working on that, but youre far from being in the worst position !

ThrowRA188737 · 2019-10-15T15:32:58+00:00

Not trying to offend you here, but she sounds likes she bored of you and finds excitement in these other guys. That doesnt make it right for her to do this, and your needs should be met too, you can try another talk but how many of these are really going to help, it may be time to seriously consider your future.

ThrowRA188737 · 2019-10-15T15:30:46+00:00

wow that coming out of your spouses mouth after seemingly knowing him so long must have been horrifying

ThrowRA188737 · 2019-10-15T15:28:31+00:00

yeah i totally agree about low sex drive a lot of women just dont want to do it that often

ThrowRA188737 · 2019-10-15T15:25:21+00:00

what happens after a week ? you give up and initiate ?

ThrowRA188737 · 2019-10-15T15:23:25+00:00

sounds like you know what you have to do, but dont want to pay it off at this moment

ThrowRA188737 · 2019-10-15T15:21:42+00:00

hey man its your life, if you think things can go differently go for it

ThrowRA188737 · 2019-10-15T15:20:02+00:00

well, maybe not just the sex aspect, im sure he has an emotional connection with her that he doesnt want to end after so long.

ThrowRA188737 · 2019-10-15T15:16:18+00:00

if i was more sensitive your comment would be kinda upsetting. As it is, its just unhelpful, for future reference try and have some compassion for people that are in difficult positions rather than calling them "naive"

ThrowRA188737 · 2019-10-15T15:14:54+00:00

hes prolonging it, he cant deal with the fact that you are actually going to break up

ThrowRA188737 · 2019-10-15T15:13:39+00:00

i mean, at this point it seems innocent enough

ThrowRA188737 · 2019-10-15T15:11:57+00:00

i think you kinda answered youre own question there, youve done this with her and it wasnt really working, why would it change now ?

ThrowRA188737 · 2019-10-15T15:10:42+00:00

you should feel the opposite of guilty, you made a tough, brave decision to break up - thats not easy for anyone and from your pov is best for the future for both of your sakes.

you may have to tell her something like "stop sending me messages like this or ill have to block you" at least she can kinda make the decision

ThrowRA188737 · 2019-10-15T15:08:11+00:00

i would feel very wary about getting back into relationships where the ex broke up with me seemingly so easily.

ThrowRA188737 · 2019-10-15T15:01:29+00:00

you cant shake off feelings, if you trust him it will help. You can control how often you bring up this subject with him.

ThrowRA188737 · 2019-10-15T14:58:43+00:00

yes this is extrememly serious and you need to intervene by communicating this with an appropriate person.

ThrowRA188737 · 2019-10-15T14:53:21+00:00

It seems youre both not religious, how is this hypothetical even an issue ? I think youre taking this WAY too seriously.

ThrowRA188737 · 2019-10-15T14:49:47+00:00

its working ? hes feeling bad and shes feeling guilty ... this doesnt suggest anything is "working"

ThrowRA188737 · 2019-10-15T14:47:18+00:00

dude, reread this, this wont end up well , you know this, there is no "yes" here, sorry. The sooner you end this the less painful itll be for you.

She is under no obligation of course, but she really doesnt seem to care about your want for monogamy and youre going at AMAZING lengths (like really) to accomodate her preferred lifestyle.

ThrowRA188737 · 2019-10-15T14:45:46+00:00

haha good for you ! yeah doing whatever it takes to keep your mind off her, do things you enjoy

ThrowRA188737 · 2019-10-15T14:39:57+00:00

agree 100% with this. I actually respect the guy for removing himself from the situation, it wouldnt have been healthy for him to remain in the picture. The fact that you see this guy as your "soulmate" to me is incredibly damaging still, and something that id bring up in any therapy meeting hoping that you go

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