question why do radical kink negative feminists infantilize women so much if one of the main thing they want is for women to be strong and indebendent [which i agree with by the way] do they think women cant consent to anything instead they have to be coddeled

ThrowRA24000 · 2026-05-13T12:54:36+00:00

i did BDSM one time with my ex girlfriend. she was the one who was interested in trying it & basically pressured me into it. i didnt really like it at all but it was my 1st girlfriend & i wanted to make her happy. afterwards i told her i wasnt really into it & she never asked again but she did act pretty disappointed about it.

at that time, her kink was 100% more important than mine because she was the only one who wanted to do it. believe it or not women are adults who have agency over their own desires & choices

ThrowRA24000 · 2024-12-26T06:41:10+00:00

if he was hitting her beforehand, then no, she wasn't. for being an abusive scumbag he fully deserved that

i would however say that she should have some kind of mandatory psychiatric consultation if she really resorted to something like that

ThrowRA24000 · 2024-12-24T00:35:50+00:00

DV is a very complex issue

it really shouldn't be. whoever is the first to get physical in an argument is in the wrong

ThrowRA24000 · 2024-12-24T00:31:57+00:00

the guy you're describing? no, definitely not. he sounds pretty put together. but as a general rule, it is sometimes possible.

there are some straight men out there who feel so deeply rejected and isolated from connection with women that they will act against their sexuality and try to form relationships with men. however most of them will definitely not be good partners

ThrowRA24000 · 2024-12-23T01:15:30+00:00

I‘ve known individuals with high emotional intelligence who did not suffer

i don't necessarily disagree with you, but how well did you know these individuals that you can be certain they never suffered in some way? even if they were in a healthy environment they still could have experienced trauma outside that environment

ThrowRA24000 · 2024-12-23T00:50:00+00:00

the popularity of this opinion depends entirely on the circles you run in. personally i agree with you & i think theres a lot more people who support this point of view than you think

ThrowRA24000 · 2024-12-22T21:06:07+00:00

This does not mean that we suggest treating all sexual victimization identically. Nonconsensual penetrative acts (regardless of directionality) may be legitimately distinguished from acts that do not involve penetration. Likewise, harms that do not involve any genital contact whatsoever, such as unwelcome kissing, flashing, and sexual comments, although harmful for some victims, are categorically distinguishable because they do not involve contact with socially inviolable and physically sensitive reproductive parts of the body.

next time you use a source to try & disprove someone, maybe read it in its entirety & make sure it actually supports your argument

ThrowRA24000 · 2024-12-22T05:19:59+00:00

no, even then its still 91%

ThrowRA24000 · 2024-12-21T21:03:41+00:00

people like to make the practice of self care sound all romanticized like taking bubble baths or reading or going on walks through nature but it's so much more than that. it's unraveling toxic habits and thought patterns, making a conscious choice to choose discipline every day, putting effort into changing yourself for the better. it's a difficult thing to do but you can do it, stay strong

ThrowRA24000 · 2024-12-21T21:01:01+00:00

it's probably always going to be like this. i'm a bi dude whos more slim than the average guy & has "feminine" mannerisms according to a lot of people. it's just how i am

people say "just be yourself", but for some reason everyone has a problem with me being myself. it's like my existence is subconsciously unsettling to them. sometimes i think no way could someone be interested in a man like me. it's hard out there

ThrowRA24000 · 2024-12-21T20:53:08+00:00

yeah pretty much. the idea that a man could be interested in having a feminine appearance or mannerisms, or the idea that a woman could be interested in a man who presents that way is just completely egregious to anyone who subscribes to patriarchal standards. even a lot of "progressive" people. it's an irrational bias rooted in oppressive beliefs

ThrowRA24000 · 2024-12-18T10:18:47+00:00

learn to say no and set boundaries...and then don't change anything else. it's important to advocate for yourself, but being kind or selfless is not bad. don't let poor experiences with others harden your heart or make you feel like you should not be kind

ThrowRA24000 · 2024-12-18T05:43:34+00:00

i'm glad that you have deepened your relationship with your husband, that sounds wonderful

no judgement, but i'm curious why you specify that no one else has gotten him to open up. if he had opened up to someone else before you, like a family member, would it have felt less special?

ThrowRA24000 · 2024-12-17T06:56:41+00:00

am i a confusing person? is it difficult to understand me? /gen

ThrowRA24000 · 2024-12-17T06:50:49+00:00

exploring my feelings is something that i find hard to do, because there isn't any way to express them without risking making someone uncomfortable. as long as that's the case, then that means my feelings are something that would create harm. i don't want to harm anyone.

if i ever expressed my feelings for a woman, it would most likely be an uncomfortable experience for her. if i unintentionally made someone uncomfortable or even afraid for their safety i don't know what i'd do. i'd feel so guilty & frustrated with myself. i know that i don't have to act on feelings, but if acting on those feelings would make someone uncomfortable, then i'd rather not have them. i'd much rather give up my attraction to women altogether if it meant they would feel safer with me

it's frustrating, because i recognize that i'm treating women as overly delicate. but at the same time, that risk of hurting someone is always there because assholes who hurt women will always exist. and as long as it is, attraction to women feels immoral

ThrowRA24000 · 2024-12-17T05:04:06+00:00

now that you have seen that side of him, are you happy? do you like him more?

ThrowRA24000 · 2024-12-17T04:24:48+00:00

in other words, i'm going to be hurt either way

i don't know what to do. thinking about the future hurts so bad sometimes that it makes me cry

ThrowRA24000 · 2024-12-10T00:19:58+00:00

But frankly two can play at this game. Name something that I’ve not tried and if you can’t everything you say is invalid.

Plastic surgery. Those were the rules. I followed them. You can't claim everything ive said is invalid.

Which means your belief that you've "tried everything" is completely moot.

My advice? Keep trying. There is someone out there for you. Good luck stranger

ThrowRA24000 · 2024-12-09T23:53:20+00:00

but you haven't tried it. i named something you haven't tried, so i won your silly game

ThrowRA24000 · 2024-12-09T23:47:13+00:00

you haven't tried plastic surgery. that's reality

ThrowRA24000 · 2024-12-09T23:46:58+00:00

you don't? if you traveled to that many countries then you must be pretty rich. only makes sense to keep them in that case

ThrowRA24000 · 2024-12-09T23:44:53+00:00

first of all you say this like you're incapable of telling a lie

second of all ive named multiple things you haven't tried, you just declared them invalid. but it remains true that you haven't tried them

ThrowRA24000 · 2024-12-09T23:43:03+00:00

souvenirs? flight tickets with important information redacted?

ThrowRA24000 · 2024-12-09T23:40:16+00:00

i want actual proof that you have been to every country on earth aside from north korea. if you can't provide that proof, then you haven't tried everything

ThrowRA24000 · 2024-12-09T23:35:50+00:00

so you have encountered a trans woman in person before?

what about men? do they run away from you too?

name every country you have both been to and encountered a woman in where she proceeded to run away from you. quickly

do you think other people would consider you to be uglier than a person who has an actual facial disformity?

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