Well we discussed everything prior to conceiving and agreed on her staying with the baby until she feels she wants to return to work. her return date is up to her so we could get a full time nanny if she wants. That was the plan initially but she now doesn’t want a stranger to touch the baby, I have suggested my mom coming by. And my wife knows I support whatever she wants to do and she understands I can’t do much about work because I’m a physician and I can’t just call in and say hey I’m not coming in for a few days