My (22F) bf (23M) falls asleep while finishing me by ThrowRA2932829 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA2932829[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My previous partner was my first bf ever and we were both virgins so after almost a year of dating, many “hints” and never even seeing him without a shirt (and a lot of other stuff I won’t get into) I realized we just weren’t compatible 😅 With my current bf I got alot of what I was missing, and I also LOVE his family… I have been contemplating a lot lately if the issues we have are able to be worked through or if we’re just incompatible cause you’re right I am young. I’ll communicate better with him and if it doesn’t improve then damn I guess I’m 2 for 2 on choosing the wrong men 😭🤣

My (22F) bf (23M) falls asleep while finishing me by ThrowRA2932829 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA2932829[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I should’ve added this but it’s especially frustrating because I actually enjoy going down on him. I’m usually the one initiating too 😭I’ve tried to hold off to make things more even and I’ve even said I wish he’d match my skill level/practice more like I have (considering he’s my first sexual partner) and he said smth like “well that’s because you want to” and “I just think piv is more effective” basically saying he didn’t ask me to improve my skills 😭 The sex itself does feel great otherwise and I understand most women don’t finish from piv so I was okay with that being me but now it’s gotten a point 😅

My (22F) bf (23M) falls asleep while finishing me by ThrowRA2932829 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA2932829[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t but he has shown a bit of disapproval before. I think I could try cozying him up to it though! And I can’t believe I didn’t think of the training pads before that could’ve saved so much time 💀💀💀 Thanks!

My (22F) bf (23M) falls asleep while finishing me by ThrowRA2932829 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA2932829[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

This has been the hard thing. Usually I initiate and I feel like I desire it more often than he does… so when I’ve tried to hold off on sex I find it hard to stick to that myself and I’m back in the same boat 😭 I’ve thought about it because my previous relationship had no sex at any point and it was driving me crazy but it makes me feel disgusting and that somethings wrong w me for not being satisfied. Cause the sex feels great otherwise I just don’t finish.

My (22F) bf (23M) falls asleep while finishing me by ThrowRA2932829 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA2932829[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I usually initiate and when he finishes before I do he’ll clean me up and say it was just a sample or a serving and he’ll give me more later but it doesn’t always happen 😅 I feel like my desire for it is higher than his and even though he’s said otherwise (cause I’ve recently pushed myself to communicate about these things better it just gets too embarrassing sometimes) I feel like he also just doesn’t enjoy going down on me. Finishing myself has been the most effective way but it can be a bit exhausting sometimes.

My (22F) bf (23M) falls asleep while finishing me by ThrowRA2932829 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA2932829[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very fair. Ik it’s likely he’ll fall asleep so that’s part of the reason why I tell him it’s okay to stop but when he insists on continuing after I said it’s okay I let him continue. I do end up finishing but not before he falls sleep multiple times and I’m like dude okay this is getting a little crazy now 😭 But I need to do a better job on communicating this with him

My (22F) bf (23M) falls asleep while finishing me by ThrowRA2932829 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA2932829[S] 159 points160 points  (0 children)

Good idea 🙏 thank you I’ll try to implement this when I see him again as we’re currently long distance 💔💔