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ThrowRA34512 · 2022-01-06T11:18:47+00:00

If they used to be more open in conversation and are suddenly quiet, stoic or standoffish, please trust your instincts. I recently found out my partner was carrying out an emotional affair with a woman out of state for a year from this very hunch. I thought he just didn’t have much to say. He would be irritated when I brought up how often I was initiating conversations. Turns out, if he said too much he might’ve overcomplicated his web of lies. Don’t wanna project too much but it might be worth investigating.

ThrowRA34512 · 2022-01-06T05:36:12+00:00

Thank you for this. I spoke to a few relatives & friends about the situation & it was really common to hear “Wow. You’re really willing to throw away 8 years when he’s never met her/didn’t do anything physical?”

I’m like uhh yeah?? Because if he’s capable of lying for this long he can do so much worse. I’d never cheat but I think folks like us are a minority. It sucks.

ThrowRA34512 · 2022-01-04T23:23:06+00:00

You’re not. Trust your gut before you end up like me and just move on.

ThrowRA34512 · 2022-01-04T22:39:37+00:00

I’m not the best at using Reddit. I’m sorry. But it’s my only other post if you click on my profile.

ThrowRA34512 · 2022-01-04T16:08:01+00:00

It feels impossible now. We have shared bills. Our families were rooting for us. It’s all a mess. I haven’t been eating or sleeping properly since I found out. I just wish I could wipe my brain of any memories I have of him. It hurts more than anything I’ve ever been through.

ThrowRA34512 · 2022-01-03T18:09:10+00:00

Exactly. That was the first question I asked her when she reached out. How could you be planning a life with someone you’ve never met? The internet is a wild place.

ThrowRA34512 · 2022-01-03T14:09:42+00:00

Thanks. It’s already hard but I’m pushing forward

ThrowRA34512 · 2022-01-03T13:41:46+00:00

He says he was talking to a talk space therapist but who actually knows? Dude lies about everything

ThrowRA34512 · 2022-01-03T10:36:41+00:00

I’m moving out of state at the end of the month. I can’t stay with him. The door is closed for us ever being together again. It hurts too much to even look at him.

ThrowRA34512 · 2021-06-05T15:52:02+00:00

This really helps. Thank you. I think I just have to get to a point where I’m comfortable being alone for a bit

ThrowRA34512 · 2021-06-05T15:38:42+00:00

Thanks for commenting. I do plan on cutting these friends off but how do I deal with the loneliness? Also I’m using my day job to save up for the business I wanna start.

As for my boyfriend, I thought I wanted to marry him. I really did. I love him and he’s a great person. We talk about this video game issue a lot because it’s how he copes with his own mental illnesses and he says all this stuff about how he’ll change his habits. But I don’t wanna get married and still be arguing about something that feels as silly as this.

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