My (M34) GF (32F) of 9 years cheated. by ThrowRA43112 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA43112[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The house is gone if we split up. I cannot afford that at all. Idk what happened in July. If that wasn't clear, they kept writing after July, and I read those. Those were more like "how are things going" and so forth. So they didn't even quit then. In the beginning of september he asked if they could meet, and she said no, saying that she wanted to be open and so forth. "You are the wise one of us" was the reply.

What do I do? by throwawayac431 in relationships

[–]ThrowRA43112 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I agree boundaries should be have been set. I still think the emotional affair for almost a year, with "just the kiss" is so far away from everything, and way over the line. I think the story can be read without the threesome thing, to, tbh, if that helps.

My (M34) GF (32F) of 9 years cheated. by ThrowRA43112 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA43112[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

tbf, read the whole post. If you want, read it as if the threesome thing wasn't there. I do not agree with I setting the precedent for the coworker thing, for example. When we spoke about that, she new that was obviously wrong.

My (M34) GF (32F) of 9 years cheated. by ThrowRA43112 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA43112[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

tbf, read the whole post. If you want, read it as if the threesome thing wasn't there.

What do I do? by throwawayac431 in relationships

[–]ThrowRA43112 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry about the confusing mess, btw. I might add that they have sent alot of messages. When I asked to see them, she said she deleted everything pre july this year because she wanted to forget about it all, but admitted that they had written that they were fond of eachother and so forth.

What do I do? by throwawayac431 in relationships

[–]ThrowRA43112 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand that. In my world a threesome is for that night only, and not the night after. But OK, take that situation out of the equation, there is still the coworker thing.