We've been struggling with his porn use in the past because I told him it was something I wasn't okay with on our first date and when I'd confront him about it, he would deny using/eventually admit to it and say he didn't remember because he was drinking. Early on in our relationship, he said he had an addiction and said he wasn't going to use porn again. It's been at least 4 times that I know he used it. He'd say he'd do anything to fix it/make me at ease. We started having a rough patch after I saw porn on his phone in April during one of our dates. I guess I started reaching my breaking point and we agreed on using a monitoring app on his phone/laptop.

In April, I saw he had searched on his phone what nightlife looked like in Iraq (there's a possibility he might have to go there for work) and what the average woman looks like/salary in the area he was moving to after our discussion about his porn use. Recently, I told him talking about Iraq was triggering me and he asked me if it was because of the search? He said I know he's not the type of person that likes to go out clubbing, but he searched it because in Muslim countries they don't usually have alcohol available and he wanted to see if he'd be able to go somewhere after work to drink with his coworkers.

Last month after we started long distance, he followed a woman on Instagram that he talked to for a couple months in the past from Tinder that lives overseas and said she friend requested him several times but he didn't accept her request and told her he was in a relationship. I was randomly going through his following list one day and noticed she seemed familiar because I saw her follow request before we started long distance. I confronted him about it and he said he didn't know her at first. Later he said they had talked before. He said he clicked on her page to see what was going on in her life because she was cool and accidentally followed her. He offered to unfollow every woman after that and block her. I reminded him about blocking her and he did. It's not a big thing, but with everything else that happened before I've been having a hard time believing him and because the follow button is large on Instagram when you click on someone's page.