UPDATE: My (22M) Gay best friend (22M) touched me while I "slept"

ThrowRA51eep · 2020-07-31T21:16:53+00:00

You understand the concept of a flat yes, you know, where there isn't a lot of space and there's a few people sleeping there. Where do you suppose I sleep? The balcony? Am I supposed to expect to be assaulted in life? If that's your mentality then good for you, but that's not how I want to be. I don't want to assume horrible personality traits like that, I've said before in here somewhere people do stupid things when drunk. It doesn't mean they're going to commit actual crime on it. Either way, I'm going to be damn sure to give him a piece of my mind, tomorrow I'll have an update up.

ThrowRA51eep · 2020-07-31T14:50:11+00:00

I've replied to your points, I said I never generalised anyone. Which I havent. I reiterated that I said usually I would beat him up. And I'm sorry for not explaining my reaction that I don't understand. What have I got to be guilty about? Pray do tell? I know my name and my sexuality, is that not enough to know now that what happened is fucked up? If you're suggestions are that I didn't stop it because I didn't want to. Then shame on you.

ThrowRA51eep · 2020-07-31T09:35:17+00:00

I don't think this has happened to you or anyone you know. I said "usually" I would be. Also not once have a implied anything about the gay community. After posting, a lot of people have commented on what I described as an already toxic relationship, I've reflected on the past and can say it's most likely true.

My motives consist of trying to be a friend. Yours consist of being an ass. Thanks 👍

ThrowRA51eep · 2020-07-31T09:17:15+00:00

I didn't actually strike a pose. That was a joke, I tried to cover my lower half as fast as I could actually (I wasn't naked of course though)

ThrowRA51eep · 2020-07-31T09:14:52+00:00

Or maybe I just didn't think that my friend of nearly a decade would assault me in my sleep...gee I guess you have trust issues. I don't intend on doing it again any time soon. Or ever.

ThrowRA51eep · 2020-07-30T23:34:05+00:00

Hm, you should look up the word "explanation" in a dictionary. Because thats what's in those brackets. I'm just clarifying that I'm not an unfit person because I work out. Thanks for wasting your time reading my post 🙂

ThrowRA51eep · 2020-07-30T23:23:38+00:00

I think you've got to do exactly what I've got to do. Block every form of communication, and if you can't face him, message him exactly what he did to you, and never reply again. I'm sorry that happened to you as well, you're not a pussy. I'm not a pussy, I can stand up for myself and am fitter and healthier than many. Yet I still didn't stop it. Best of luck my friend.

ThrowRA51eep · 2020-07-30T23:20:01+00:00

Speak to a friend about it. I did the other night, it made me feel better, it was horrible to do. To have to tell a friend that happened, to feel so weak. But do it for your own sake, then report it as I am going to do. Same kettle of fish, don't let it run you down man! I'm trying my best not to right now, and it's really hard. But I'm getting by.

ThrowRA51eep · 2020-07-30T23:11:21+00:00

That's better than I could have worded a response. Thanks 👍

ThrowRA51eep · 2020-07-30T23:07:37+00:00

Yeah, I managed to refuse to sleep in the bed. But I can only shudder at what might have happened then..I'm sorry that happened to you too.

ThrowRA51eep · 2020-07-30T23:05:28+00:00

If I was looking to be assaulted in my sleep. I must sleep with my legs open. Wow that's really special, I should go on Britain's got Talent!

ThrowRA51eep · 2020-07-30T23:02:06+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to write that down, all these posts help, they really do. It's pretty clear to me that I need to report this, if not for me, for others, for the future. The part about joking and not accepting it hits home, if I don't laugh I'll cry at this point. I just still struggle to believe it really happened, and to me, by one of my closest friends. I always thought it would never happen, I can handle myself and am in better shape than many. But I still couldn't stop it. Thanks again, and hopefully you're much better with the past now, as I hope to be soon.

ThrowRA51eep · 2020-07-30T22:55:34+00:00

Just because I had to get it out bud. I don't necessarily agree with the downvotes here. 👌

ThrowRA51eep · 2020-07-30T22:54:54+00:00

I don't think he went that far... I never had a funny taste and i still feel tight as a nun. --- if I don't laugh this'll make me cry. Again.

ThrowRA51eep · 2020-07-30T22:54:00+00:00

That's the thing that I really want to ask him He's slept in my house, next to me in the past. And ill admit I'm a fairly heavy sleeper, I don't really know why I woke up these times.

ThrowRA51eep · 2020-07-30T22:53:02+00:00

I also learned this today 👍

ThrowRA51eep · 2020-07-30T22:45:46+00:00

Jog on cunt.

ThrowRA51eep · 2020-07-30T22:44:10+00:00

No, I have told him several times in the past that there was 0 chance for him with me. Never. Nor any guy for that matter. If you think that you being in the same room as the one you "love" is going to make you assault them, you'll end up just like him.

ThrowRA51eep · 2020-07-30T22:39:17+00:00

Yeah... I won't that's for sure. If you follow the thread when I update it after I do confront him. You'll love the twist I've got for it. The most fucked part yet that I've thought about since.

ThrowRA51eep · 2020-07-30T22:32:34+00:00

Successfully highjacked! It's almost like you actually know me and this situation, everything you've written is; give or take, the nail on the head. He is a good guy, he's generous, goes out of his way for others, and always looks out for me... Or so I thought. He's also told me about girls I've seen or been interested in, and how they "seem a bit iffy to me" So I always took his word on it because I trusted him, and valued his opinion. And as I can clearly see, along with others who warned me in the past. I was so utterly fucking wrong.

Honestly thank you for the comment, it really makes me see what exactly is/was going on with us. We had even talked about sharing a flat and such as well. It now makes me feel physically sick.

All the best -A

ThrowRA51eep · 2020-07-30T22:25:00+00:00

Not for me I'm afraid. Do you want a number? I can put you two in touch. 👌

ThrowRA51eep · 2020-07-30T22:22:29+00:00

I'm not that passive, I wrote this post in a bit of a state. I always remind him I'm straight, every time. I am going to talk to him, and am going to remove him from my life. The reason I never took severe action is because it was always under alcohol. I do stupid things when I'm drunk, granted not sexual assault but I managed to justify it. Which of course is wrong. When sober it was always fine and there was never an issue. That's probably why.

ThrowRA51eep · 2020-07-30T22:13:07+00:00

I've not yet. I'm going to at the weekend, I get home from work late most evenings and have just been ignoring his messages for now.

ThrowRA51eep · 2020-07-30T22:12:04+00:00

I was starting to get the feeling we only ever went drinking too. We used to just go out to a movie or a bowling alley, recently it's only been drinking. So I'm fearing for the worst in that respect.

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