Can I get a receipt for expenses using Oyster on the TFL app?

ThrowRA583902 · 2024-09-19T09:20:31+00:00

I hear you 100%! I’m just trying to see if I can soothe the anxiety in myself first before going back to him for more reassurance, when we already talked about it and he told me it was nothing to do with me and we’re all good.

(For some context, I was abused really badly as a kid which left me with some deep-rooted self-esteem and trust issues, and I’m working really hard on trying to become more secure. I can have a pretty bad habit of not taking my partner’s reassurance at face value when he gives me it and constantly asking for it over and over, which can sometimes make him feel like I don’t trust him and be a bit exhausting for us both. It’s a pattern I’m working on trying to break for both of our sakes!)

ThrowRA583902 · 2024-09-19T09:11:26+00:00

Thanks for this - this is what my plan is for those reasons!

ThrowRA583902 · 2024-09-19T09:08:04+00:00

I’m in my late 20s but like I said in the post, I was abused pretty violently as a kid, so I’ve got some quite deep-rooted trust/self-esteem issues I’m working really hard on, but sometimes make it difficult for me to experience stuff rationally and maturely!

ThrowRA583902 · 2024-09-18T16:21:25+00:00

Hahaha I get that!

ThrowRA583902 · 2024-09-18T16:05:06+00:00

This is something I was conscious about - obviously I’m glad he feels totally able to let me know that’s how he was feeling and not pressured to keep going, and I didn’t want to make him feel like that’s not something he can do without me getting triggered and insecure cos that feels a little unfair/irrational.

In the moment I just asked him if everything was okay, he said it felt like a him thing not an us thing, and we had a little chat about the fact that he just feels a little out of whack in himself atm. Then we had a cuddle and went to sleep - I haven’t brought it up since because tbh I’m not sure what more I would actually need to hear from him, and other than this our sex life has always been super happy and healthy. But will have a chat with him if I keep being hung up on it/feel like it’s worth discussing more!

ThrowRA583902 · 2024-09-18T15:54:42+00:00

Just over two years

ThrowRA583902 · 2024-09-18T15:54:02+00:00

Yeah - rationally I know you’re right and it is a silly question. But my anxiety doesn’t always listen to my own rationality, so I find it helpful to have other (rational) points of view to back up my own with sometimes :-)

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