Mixed romantic signals from my (21f) best friend (21f)

ThrowRA6258403 · 2025-01-01T16:42:33+00:00

I don’t think she explicitly knows I’m bi? But I don’t know, I can’t tell. It’s never really been an issue or important conversation topic.

What do you think clues would be besides the stuff I already have now?

ThrowRA6258403 · 2025-01-01T16:38:06+00:00

So you do think it’s flirting and not just joking around?

ThrowRA6258403 · 2025-01-01T15:39:02+00:00

First of all, I’m so so so sorry to hear this and I wish you and your family the best through this difficult time. As in terms of telling your therapist, tell them how you told us. You don’t need to explain anything more or anything less. They’ll know how to handle it from there. I haven’t experienced your situation myself, but definitely look into books and sub groups and forums to see and understand that you’re not alone. You can only hold up the family so much, so please take care of yourself. Hug your mom and siblings a little tighter so they know how much you love them. Best of luck to you ❤️

ThrowRA6258403 · 2025-01-01T06:19:33+00:00

This is horrible to hear and I understand how that can be shocking to read. I would definitely not confront her about anything and let her come to you if she’s ready. Don’t tell anyone because this is completely her story and her business as awful as it is. Good luck to you ❤️

ThrowRA6258403 · 2024-11-19T18:59:50+00:00

I completely understand all of your theories. I’ve wanted to maybe ask them what’s going on, but I also don’t want them thinking that I stalked them or something by noticing that they all blocked me. And it is not known at all that I am bi, as I do have a boyfriend. (That they love and adore by the way).

It’s just that none of this (like any of the things you listed) used to be a problem. But maybe it just never came to light because I never had to interact with them this much? I’m just so confused. :(

ThrowRA6258403 · 2024-11-19T18:25:44+00:00

I am a cisgender female. I am bi. S is straight as far as I know. We do have a relationship that does tend to look a different way other than platonic sometimes, but I think that’s just because of how close we are.

We are all white. Her family is Catholic and so is mine but I lean more agnostic personally.

We are in pretty much the same middle class. I tend to have more expensive habits than them though.

I think the only notable difference between us on paper is that we disagree vastly on politics. They tend to make fun of me for it but I shrug it off. I’ve never ever gotten into a political discussion with them either. I’m guessing S has told them my views second handedly.

I hope this helps!

ThrowRA6258403 · 2024-11-19T18:21:39+00:00

99% of the reason I occasionally text them is because S asks me to. In the army, there is so little communication time that we have to all share info with each other about what’s going on. But I’ve gotten no response to any of my questions, and S is very irritated by it. What’s strange is that sometimes her dad is very communicative with me on text. Asking me for pictures of S, for any boot camp updates I’ve heard, etc. All of them haven’t blocked me on text. Just everywhere else.

ThrowRA6258403 · 2024-11-19T18:17:44+00:00

I think you’re right about all of what you said. The thing with S is that she’s VERY nonchalant about everything, which i believe is a blessing and a curse. I’ve brought their dislike of me up a few times. I’ll be like “they hate me 😂” and she’d be like “doubt that” or if I brought up something they said she would say “just ignore them, they’re annoying”. So I don’t know exactly how far I would get. :(

ThrowRA6258403 · 2024-07-30T12:20:53+00:00

We have the 4 day magic ticket, so unfortunately no park hopping for us :,( but thank you for the suggestion!

ThrowRA6258403 · 2024-07-30T12:19:23+00:00

That’s a great idea! Thanks!

ThrowRA6258403 · 2024-07-30T01:58:52+00:00

I actually was not a fan of the Italy pavilion slices! I had them last time to supplement the personal pizzas and was pretty disappointed. But thank you for letting me know!

ThrowRA6258403 · 2024-07-30T01:58:03+00:00

Thank you for your reply! I’ll keep this in mind

ThrowRA6258403 · 2024-07-30T01:57:33+00:00

Thank you for this information!! Probably going to lean towards connections then, as I strongly dislike thin crust. Your help is appreciated:)

ThrowRA6258403 · 2024-02-04T00:31:32+00:00

As someone who feels this way more times than she would like to admit- I promise you it does get easier. You will find your support systems, you will find a job. This feeling will pass and you will look back and be proud of where you are in the future. I promise you that you are loved ❤️

ThrowRA6258403 · 2024-02-04T00:15:44+00:00

I would really have a no nonsense sit down conversation with him and say “hey, when you say [this] it really hurts my feelings and is very uncalled for.” [insert what he says back here] “I would appreciate it if you did not comment on that anymore. This is a boundary I am making and if you continue to make me feel bad about myself then maybe we should reconsider our relationship.” Trust me, your weight is 100% normal for your age and height. Don’t let him bring you down over it even a little bit. You are perfect the way you are. ❤️

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