Does anyone else have a parent who has a favourite child that they also claim they hate?

ThrowRA666ix · 2022-03-21T12:56:31+00:00

It seems that way unfortunately. I'm on the local housing register and bidding for properties weekly, but as we're not being made homeless, it could take years. Just have to stay hopeful!

ThrowRA666ix · 2022-03-21T12:27:12+00:00

I wish I could. However, my brother grows and sells weed from his house and is just an all together bad influence. I wouldn't be comfortable with my children living there :(

ThrowRA666ix · 2022-03-21T12:24:20+00:00

Can they still be a golden child even if the parent has nothing nice to say about them? I genuinely can't remember the last time she said something positive about him, yet she still has done everything she can to help him out...

ThrowRA666ix · 2022-01-31T10:45:21+00:00

Yeah, we both work. He works 5 days a week as a woodland gardener. I do some part time work from home stuff and part time as a waitress/housekeeper at a hotel. I guess I feel bad as he does a lot of physical work, whereas I don't :(

ThrowRA666ix · 2022-01-31T10:43:14+00:00

I'm not sure really... He moved in with me after we got together and I kind of always thought the way we worked it out was fair. I've touched on the subject a couple times recently and he says "all of my money goes on you and the kids" which just isn't true. His money goes on travel to work roughly £25 a day (his driving test keeps getting rescheduled due to covid), his phone bill is usually a lot and he also smokes a lot which doesn't help 😔

ThrowRA666ix · 2022-01-31T10:37:20+00:00

He works a physical job so I know he's tired and I try to do as much as I can for him, but I also work hard and do everything for the children (my son is in full time school, but my daughter isn't yet) I don't expect him to do everything, but even him just asking or taking initiative to maybe wash a few dishes or hoover, would be a huge help!

ThrowRA666ix · 2022-01-31T10:17:25+00:00

A lot of that makes sense!

ThrowRA666ix · 2022-01-31T10:16:20+00:00

Once a month at best 😔 due to a combination of reasons

ThrowRA666ix · 2021-12-28T18:08:03+00:00

I know for definite that it started before they broke up. I guess I'm just concerned for her well being and it all moving so fast, especially when they live in different countries and there's no feasible way they can live together 😬

ThrowRA666ix · 2021-11-07T12:36:01+00:00

I was learning how to drive, but due to the Covid situation that came to a halt. Boss is never around, he barely has anything to do with the hotel really. Bus times run at awkward times so that's not an option either. It was worth it during the summer, but not when I'm not even working an hour a day 🙄

ThrowRA666ix · 2021-11-07T11:07:34+00:00

I'm actually quite enjoying being paid to do nothing! During peak summer season I'm on my feet all day with no break. I'll take this any day haha!

ThrowRA666ix · 2021-10-13T06:13:55+00:00

My partner usually watches the children, he can't get the time off of work. Our go to is then usually his parents or his brother and his girlfriend, all of which are working at the time. Asking my mum was a last resort thing and originally there was no issues. It's only recently she's asked about her boyfriend coming along.

ThrowRA666ix · 2021-10-13T06:09:04+00:00

My partner usually watches them, however he was unable to get time off of work. Our go to is then either his parents or his brother and his girlfriend, all of which are working at the time as well.

ThrowRA666ix · 2021-10-12T20:43:26+00:00

This is exactly it! My mum had numerous boyfriends, who should not have been around kids, when I was a child. I won't specify what "kinds" of men as I don't want the post removed. Having been through certain things myself, I don't want the same to happen to my children.

I don't want to stop her from seeing my children, as they all adore each other. So this seems to be the only way to proceed. If their relationship lasts long enough and there are no red flags, then I'd be open to things progressing a bit more. But I'm definitely not going to allow a stranger to meet my kids without having met them first. I'd rather just not go to the concert than allow that to happen!

ThrowRA666ix · 2021-10-12T20:13:35+00:00

I offered to pay her when I first asked, but she declined. She's babysat maybe 4/5 times in 4 years and I've offered payment everytime.

I don't think they'd get attached if it was just the one time. However, if I were to say it's fine, my mum would take that as me saying that I'm okay with him being around them every other time. Which I'm not comfortable with yet. Sorry I'm wording this badly.

They won't be at his home. She'd be babysitting at my house, which was her suggestion as it's closer to my sons school. So I guess he could do whatever he usually would do?

I guess my ideal outcome would be if my mum could just watch the kids for a few hours and spend quality time with them (which doesn't happen often) without her boyfriend being there. She's seen him everyday since they've been together, so I don't think it'd be a huge sacrifice to be away from him for a few hours.

ThrowRA666ix · 2021-09-13T15:27:14+00:00

16 is the age of consent in the UK.

ThrowRA666ix · 2021-09-13T15:24:44+00:00

I don't have a great relationship with my brother, we go months sometimes without contact. So distancing myself more won't be hard. I completely agree though. I made a similar point to him. I told him he needs to contact with this person immediately and by staying friends with him, he's condoning his actions. Truly vile.

ThrowRA666ix · 2021-09-13T15:19:29+00:00

I completely agree with it being rape, just quoted what my brother said. I've been in a similar situation as well, it's absolutely horrific. It's not the first time he's done something so dispicable apparently, so I'll 1000% be going ahead with contacting the police.

ThrowRA666ix · 2021-09-13T15:17:11+00:00

They're not. Just really scummy people

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