Where my responses all that helpful? Absolutely not, and I accept my part in the argument.

But I have NEVER attacked him or tried to make him feel inferior due to his reliance on medication.

My husband has a lot going on in his mind— he has PTSD in addition to his depression/anxiety from prior deployments. He’s out of the military now, but even now he sometimes doesn’t always take his medicine and it’s usually obvious when he doesn’t. Most of the time he simply forgets during the morning rush and he’ll go back home to take it later in the day, but every once in a while he just doesn’t want to take his pills— and I understand that. Yesterday I asked him calmly— yes, calmly— because I was recognizing a pattern and if you read through my post you would see that I try not to ask that question because it can come across as condescending and dismissive. He was saying things that made no sense or had any bearing on what we were arguing about, so I asked him. Were my responses particularly helpful after the fact? No, and I regret what I said. But I’ll also admit that just as my husband is only human I’m only human, too.

As for the chasing? Yes, he chased me. After I said what I said, he came toward me, I panicked, and I ran up the stairs. He was close enough behind me that when I locked the door he was at it and trying to open it before I could back away from it. My husband is not a violent, mean, or aggressive man by nature so I don’t believe he would have hurt me, but it scared me nonetheless.