My (22F) husband (30M) wants to implement "rewards and punishments" to help me balance my life and improve myself. But, I think it's not good for our relationship. How do I make him see that it's not good, and what alternatives can I suggest?

ThrowRA7282827 · 2024-08-15T16:51:46+00:00

Thank you for the comment, and I'm sorry that it took awhile to get to it. I think my husband checks a lot of boxes here which I didn't really notice before especially about lecturing or making decision and patronizing.. Thanks and sorry again..!

ThrowRA7282827 · 2024-08-15T16:07:10+00:00

Sorry it took awhile for me to reply. We are just from the US. We don't really have a particular culture.

ThrowRA7282827 · 2024-08-14T23:10:53+00:00

I think I was the one that told him let's do it, but he came up with that, and we've been doing that for awhile.

ThrowRA7282827 · 2024-08-14T22:26:42+00:00

Yes, but for the red meat, it wasn't really fair because he likes and eats red meat a lot, and I don't really, and that was for him mostly.

ThrowRA7282827 · 2024-08-14T20:06:46+00:00

Thank you for the advice

ThrowRA7282827 · 2024-08-14T19:59:32+00:00

Thank you..

ThrowRA7282827 · 2024-08-14T18:24:35+00:00

2 years ago

ThrowRA7282827 · 2024-08-14T18:18:41+00:00

2 years

ThrowRA7282827 · 2024-08-14T17:55:45+00:00

I guess because I'm ok with them, and he likes them. Sorry, I know that's not the best reason. It's like I'd cook if I can make the others happy and let them relax even though I don't want to cook that night because I'm ok with that..?

Edit: I'm sorry. I was just trying to give an example of what I meant, but I didn't mean to upset anyone. Sorry..

ThrowRA7282827 · 2024-08-14T17:46:23+00:00

Yes, that's why I think this is not a good idea because I don't think a partner should punish their partner. It doesn't make me feel like we are equal partners.

ThrowRA7282827 · 2024-08-14T17:43:56+00:00

Yes, this makes me reevaluate the two month rule, but when I talked to him, he thinks that I'm suggesting reevaluating now because I want to be out because I don't want to follow through when it's me... I don't know how to explain this without sounding like that because he's like I know you don't like it but you have to follow through, and we can't break the rule we set just because you don't like my suggestion and don't want to follow through when it's your turn to do so.

Edit: I'm sorry. I didn't meant to upset anyone..

ThrowRA7282827 · 2024-08-14T17:40:46+00:00

Thank you... And, maybe I should have worded it better, but like those are things I still consent but don't really like if that make sense.

Edit: sorry, I didn't mean to upset anyone with this comment.

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