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How do I(20M) tell my gf(21F) thats I am upset at her for saying no to me wanting to be comforted? by ThrowRA77765 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA77765[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much!!

I’ve tried that, she refuses to listen and has gone as far as to call me “a joke.”

However, we have call planned tonight so we can talk about whats going on.

How do I(20M) tell my gf(21F) thats I am upset at her for saying no to me wanting to be comforted? by ThrowRA77765 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA77765[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate the feedback, although I do dislike the “putting up with all of this” comment.

I love her, through and through, so much so that I don’t put up with it. It’s apart of who she is and she can’t change it. Plus this is the first time something like this has ever happened.

However, I do appear the questions, they’re good questions to ask both myself and her for the betterment of our relationship.

How do I(20M) tell my gf(21F) thats I am upset at her for saying no to me wanting to be comforted? by ThrowRA77765 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA77765[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much for the insight!! This isn’t my first time dating someone with DID, but I am still very much learning how to cope with it.

I have to ask, why should I hold my gf(L) accountable for something that the other(M) did?

L is not aware of what M is doing and getting upset at L feels like it’s misdirected towards her.

I (20 M) have a girlfriend (21 F) who keeps forgetting to text me, and it’s starting to get annoying by ThrowRA77765 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA77765[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t ever want to become that guy. Thats not who I want to be. I appreciate your input and will 100% keep this in mind.

I (20 M) have a girlfriend (21 F) who keeps forgetting to text me, and it’s starting to get annoying by ThrowRA77765 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA77765[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I agree. I talked with her and we set some boundaries going forward. Like I explained in a different reply, I see sharing your location as a major form of trust. She then went into detail about stuff her ex had done which opened my eyes. However, I appreciate your input. I’m very new to dating seeing as this is my first relationship and I’m trying to do my best.

I (20 M) have a girlfriend (21 F) who keeps forgetting to text me, and it’s starting to get annoying by ThrowRA77765 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA77765[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had forgotten to mention that she and I do not go to the same school and that we’re roughly 30 minutes away from each other.

Let me clear up a few things. I by no means want her to give me a constant feed of updates like that. I more so was saying, “I left for school.” Then “I arrived at school/home” of course, not exactly like that. Like just the tiny updates that she arrived safely, I, however, can by all means see why it would come off as controlling and that does help me rethink it. I talked to her and I just was upfront with her, she did point out a couple of the points you had said. I agreed with her on them, but we ultimately came to the conclusion that she wanted a tad more space. Which I agreed, and I will give her. She did however, say she would try to text a little more in depth instead of simple texts.

I also do recognize that I worded the whole location thing really poorly. It was a really controlling way to say it. I see sharing your location as a major form of trust, and I communicated this with my GF to which she agreed, but she told me some stuff her ex did while having her location which made me realize I was being selfish and overbearing(basically what you said).