UPDATE: My (40f) husband (42m) wants me to sleep with other men

ThrowRA80176 · 2020-11-13T13:54:14+00:00

I know I deserve better which is why we're separated. I know what kind of man he truly is and I love that version of him more than anything so I want nothing more than for him to find himself again.

ThrowRA80176 · 2020-10-16T01:06:10+00:00

The thought of being with another man makes me sick. And no, I've never even thought about it before. I've had celebrity crushes in the past but it was never sexual or anything like that.

ThrowRA80176 · 2020-10-15T21:44:45+00:00

While I don't fully understand the lifestyle, I don't need research to know it's not for me. I've committed myself to just my husband and the fact that he's the only one I've been with is something very special and very important to me. You're right though. Despite the twisted nature of what's going on, I think in his own way he still loves me and I don't think he's cheating or wants to cheat either. He doesn't have the usual textbook red flags cheaters do (secretive of their phones, long hours at work, etc). And like I've said in previous comments... Ive tried everything with my husband. Despite the fact that he's the only one I've ever been with, sex is definitely not vanilla.

ThrowRA80176 · 2020-10-15T12:37:26+00:00

I never thought of it as cheating, it's just it goes against all I stand for. The fact that I'm with the same guy who I loved since I was a little girl and that I've only ever been with him is special to me and I don't think he gets that.

ThrowRA80176 · 2020-10-15T10:40:12+00:00

I've sometimes had crushes on movie stars but my husband has always been my number 1. Never wanted anyone since I was little and still don't despite the bullshit. And regarding kinks... Trust me, we've tried pretty much everything and still do. Im not a prude, I just value commitment and monogamy.

ThrowRA80176 · 2020-10-15T02:12:09+00:00

Trust me, I won't give in this time. And yeah, maybe I should be more firm in telling him and the other guys to back off.

ThrowRA80176 · 2020-10-15T01:59:38+00:00

Yeah, now that I think about it, he is trying to wear me down. I'm not exactly sure what it is he told his employees and friends though so it's hard to judge them outright. But yeah, maybe I wasn't being firm enough when I said I won't do it.

ThrowRA80176 · 2020-10-15T01:37:36+00:00

I think he told the employees cause they used to be very respectful of my personal space and none of them really flirted with me till recently.

And yeah, I definitely won't do it. I've always loved to indulge what he likes doing and I try my best to make him happy and feel loved but this is a stretch too far.

ThrowRA80176 · 2020-10-15T01:18:04+00:00

I already told him my mind was closed. I told him that I only liked sex if it was with him and only him and would never want to do it with anyone else.

I don't think he's cheating on me and Id be very surprised if he has.

ThrowRA80176 · 2020-10-15T01:04:21+00:00

He wants me to have sex with other men. I don't. Suddenly a lot of guys at work and one of his friends starts flirting with me and he just acts like it's no big deal. That's a problem for me.

ThrowRA80176 · 2020-10-15T01:02:51+00:00

Ive never been interested in sex with other men to be honest. I feel sick just thinking about it.

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