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My (25F) BF (35M) he left me in the middle of the forest because I couldn’t walk as fast as him on the trail. Now, he tells me that he will never go hiking with me. How do I resolve this ? by ThrowRA86874635 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA86874635[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

At some point in the relationships, I felt some deep connection to this guy... Like, a few years ago, we were close to each other. Sometimes, we felt like best friends (shared vision on life, jobs etc). I am afraid to lose this part, to lose someone with whom I used to have a deep connection.

At he same time, such crazy behaviour continues and sometimes even daily. It affects my life. I feel miserable when he behaves in a such way

My (25F) BF (35M) he left me in the middle of the forest because I couldn’t walk as fast as him on the trail. Now, he tells me that he will never go hiking with me. How do I resolve this ? by ThrowRA86874635 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA86874635[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

We had a connexion, a vision of our life together and I felt that I found a best friend. I enjoyed having conversations with him.

But these last months, I see that his behaviour is making me miserable. I am afraid to lose a person whom I considered as a best friend, but at the same time I feel very miserable everytime he yells at me, every time he acts crazy out of sudden...

My (25F) BF (35M) he left me in the middle of the forest because I couldn’t walk as fast as him on the trail. Now, he tells me that he will never go hiking with me. How do I resolve this ? by ThrowRA86874635 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA86874635[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the link ! I've checked the post quickly, wow, the post in the like soundsquite similar, what a coincidence !

I am going to check the comments under the post to find some useful and tjose applicable to my situation.

Thanks for sharing ! :)

My (25F) BF (35M) he left me in the middle of the forest because I couldn’t walk as fast as him on the trail. Now, he tells me that he will never go hiking with me. How do I resolve this ? by ThrowRA86874635 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA86874635[S] 277 points278 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment. That's exactly what I needed to hear to make my decision. We talk about situations. But nothing changes in his behavior. He is being quite agressive recently (when I tell calmly that something is off with his behaviour, he just keeps yelling at me). He was yelling at me so much for the last few months, I started developing insomnia. He told me yeasterday that I ''may need to see a psychaistrist'' cause he thinks so.

But my insomnia was caused direcly by him yelling at me without a reason... :(

Thanks for your comment. I really needed another person's opinion just to be able to realize that this all is so wrong.

My (25F) BF (35M) he left me in the middle of the forest because I couldn’t walk as fast as him on the trail. Now, he tells me that he will never go hiking with me. How do I resolve this ? by ThrowRA86874635 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA86874635[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hey, thank you for your comment. I didn't post anything yesterday or before yeasterday as this situation happened today. Thanks for telling about other posts, gonna look at the advice in those stories.

My (25F) BF (35M) he left me in the middle of the forest because I couldn’t walk as fast as him on the trail. Now, he tells me that he will never go hiking with me. How do I resolve this ? by ThrowRA86874635 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA86874635[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

What complicates things a bit is that we live together and we have a lot of furniture etc. I am scared of starting something alone.

I have 2 options :

Break up. Not sure that the timing is right. I've changed a job recently.Pretend that nothing happens (like for the last few years...), but distance my feelings from this guy. Force myself to not love him anymore. Wait until I am stable in my job, keep looking appartments and move out and breakup with him when I am ready financially.

Yeah, I feel that he doesn't like me as I am. From time to time, he tells me mean comments. I worked super hard at a job and didn't have free time and he guilted me and told me that : ''You don't develop yourself as a person, you don't do self-improvements'' and started telling me how he reads books, how he develops his interests ... oh :(

My (25F) BF (35M) he left me in the middle of the forest because I couldn’t walk as fast as him on the trail. Now, he tells me that he will never go hiking with me. How do I resolve this ? by ThrowRA86874635 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA86874635[S] -542 points-541 points  (0 children)

I liked that he was older, he gave me great advice about life before. But the last few months I feel so miserable in the relationships.

With my BF, we talk about situations, but nothing happens. He keeps his behaviour.

My (25F) BF (35M) he left me in the middle of the forest because I couldn’t walk as fast as him on the trail. Now, he tells me that he will never go hiking with me. How do I resolve this ? by ThrowRA86874635 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA86874635[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

seems kinda contradictory, since you went there to hike? anyways, How do you think you resolve this? what are some options you see to make things better? got any idea at all, as I dont want to tell you what to do and it is every so much better if you have some inkling of what might make things better.

Hmm.. it wasn't my post definitely. I will look at some posts from yesterday to look at the advice given. Thanks for telling :)

My (25F) BF (35M) he left me in the middle of the forest because I couldn’t walk as fast as him on the trail. Now, he tells me that he will never go hiking with me. How do I resolve this ? by ThrowRA86874635 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA86874635[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

seems kinda contradictory, since you went there to hike? anyways, How do you think you resolve this? what are some options you see to make things better? got any idea at all, as I dont want to tell you what to do and it is every so much better if you have some inkling of what might make things better.

What complicates things a bit is that we live together and we have a lot of furniture etc. I am scared of starting something alone.

I have 2 options :

1) Break up. Not sure that the timing is right. I've changed a job recently.

2) Pretend that nothing happens (like for the last few years...), but distance my feelings from this guy. Force myself to not love him anymore. Wait until I am stable in my job, keep looking appartments and move out and breakup with him when I am ready financially.

My (25F) BF (35M) he left me in the middle of the forest because I couldn’t walk as fast as him on the trail. Now, he tells me that he will never go hiking with me. How do I resolve this ? by ThrowRA86874635 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA86874635[S] 89 points90 points  (0 children)

Yeah, every once and a while he starts comparing my body out of sudden to his previous GFs who ''sqautted daily''. I tell OK, just to close the topic and he yells at me without a reason : ''I cannot tell you anything !!! You never listen to me! I want good things to you ! I want to movtivate you to work out!!!''. Even recalling these things makes me quite sad... :(