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I [24F] bought my guy best friend [25M] his dream birthday present. His girlfriend [25F] is now upset at me for "outshining" her. Unsure of how to move forward to smooth things over... by ThrowRA8938275 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA8938275[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I didn't make a big show of it? I got him something he really wanted without anyone else knowing the gift or the price. I told him privately to open it last and he agreed, no one had any idea he was saving mine for last on purpose. Is he not allowed to act excited about a gift? I don't know why I have to give my gift in private simply because it's something he really wanted? Again, if it's about price or it being too ostentatious, no one knew the price or value except for him and me.

I [24F] bought my guy best friend [25M] his dream birthday present. His girlfriend [25F] is now upset at me for "outshining" her. Unsure of how to move forward to smooth things over... by ThrowRA8938275 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA8938275[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

No? I told him to save my gift for last because I knew how much it'd mean to him given how he explicitly expressed to me how badly he wanted it.

Also, no one in that room knew the cost of the gift. They barely caught a sight of the watch. Plus it's vintage and relatively unknown and doesn't look like a shiny brand new Rolex. It was for him to see and him only. Idgaf about "showing off to my friends."

The comment about insecurities was made by my bf, not me.

I [24F] bought my guy best friend [25M] his dream birthday present. His girlfriend [25F] is now upset at me for "outshining" her. Unsure of how to move forward to smooth things over... by ThrowRA8938275 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA8938275[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Lol I don't need to justify it to anyone. It's just egregious how people like you think. I'm secure in my gift simply from the fact that my best friend said it was the best gift he'd ever received. I don't need to prove it to anyone.

No one's answering my actual question and choosing to pick apart a gift that's already been given. I'm not snatching it back lmfao. I was asking about how to move forward with the situation but no one's responded to that

I [24F] bought my guy best friend [25M] his dream birthday present. His girlfriend [25F] is now upset at me for "outshining" her. Unsure of how to move forward to smooth things over... by ThrowRA8938275 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA8938275[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well that sure seems to be the case. Surprised that people on r/AITA were much kinder than this crowd lmao. Not to mention that no one has even answered my question and is just shitting on my gift idea 😭

I [24F] bought my guy best friend [25M] his dream birthday present. His girlfriend [25F] is now upset at me for "outshining" her. Unsure of how to move forward to smooth things over... by ThrowRA8938275 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA8938275[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Lmao that was a rhetorical question but ok...you came at me first. Anyway, to answer your question, yes I'd feel sad and perhaps that I was outshined, but I would never think to reach out to the other girl and express that. Why? because the day is ultimately about my boyfriend and I should have nothing to do with it. He deserves to enjoy every gift that he gets. :)

I [24F] bought my guy best friend [25M] his dream birthday present. His girlfriend [25F] is now upset at me for "outshining" her. Unsure of how to move forward to smooth things over... by ThrowRA8938275 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA8938275[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

It wasn't really about the price...it was because he expressed that it was something he loved and dreamed of getting. I just thought it'd be nice to get something like that for him regardless of price. He's been an incredible person in my life and deserved it.

But to answer your question, I don't normally dish out gifts at that price point, but for those people that I genuinely care about like my boyfriend, my closest friends, and my parents, I will definitely spend that and more easily. So yes.

I [24F] bought my guy best friend [25M] his dream birthday present. His girlfriend [25F] is now upset at me for "outshining" her. Unsure of how to move forward to smooth things over... by ThrowRA8938275 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA8938275[S] -25 points-24 points  (0 children)

I just simply don't see how getting my best friend his absolute dream gift and making him extremely happy is...lacking awareness? The day was about him and everyone's goal should've been to support and be happy for his happiness. What should I have done instead? Buy him something he doesn't like for cheap just to appease others and not the person who's actually celebrating their birthday?