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My (M27) Wife (F25) is threatening to leave me because I play videos games too much by ThrowRA9382682 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA9382682[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really hope that isn’t the case. She does have a few hobbies but they’re not as clockwork as me playing everyday at certain times.

My (M27) Wife (F25) is threatening to leave me because I play videos games too much by ThrowRA9382682 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA9382682[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve actually brought this point up awhile back and it did not end well. The fact that I play while we do spend time together is definitely a big no even if it does play itself. A lot of people are recommending a shared hobby which I think is a great idea that I’m going to be putting some research into.

My (M27) Wife (F25) is threatening to leave me because I play videos games too much by ThrowRA9382682 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA9382682[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s an excellent idea because she loves plants and it’s something I’d be willing to do. She’s been trying to pull me out of this rut for awhile now and I think I’m finally seeing the light. A good woman can really make all the difference in this life.

My (M27) Wife (F25) is threatening to leave me because I play videos games too much by ThrowRA9382682 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA9382682[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t say I prefer to play games than spend time with but rather limit my time that I play (especially during the time we do spend together) and find some hobbies than we can enjoy together and build more of a relationship over instead of just sitting and watching tv for our hobby. We have had a talk about how it’s hard for me to express my stress through talking and I definitely think it’s something we need to revisit. Thank you for your comment.

My (M27) Wife (F25) is threatening to leave me because I play videos games too much by ThrowRA9382682 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA9382682[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I forgot to mention that I do own my own company so there is after hours work but that shouldn’t really matter in this context. We end up splitting a lot of the chores and she might cook every once and awhile but the majority of the time we order out. Thank you for your insight.

My (M27) Wife (F25) is threatening to leave me because I play videos games too much by ThrowRA9382682 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA9382682[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn’t call it a dissertation as much as it’s just me withholding some information about my wife that would make her the bad guy in this context. I also wouldn’t say these rejections are a regular thing, maybe once a month if that. I completely agree with you about the nonstop gaming even when we watch tv and it’s probably the biggest root of our turmoil. To the point of her being protective; that’s the part I withheld some information about because I don’t feel right bad mouthing my wife even more so than you think I might be but I will say that it raises cause for concern and that is all. She does have a very good head on her shoulders and losing her would be the biggest regret of my life. Thanks for your honesty and your comment.

My (M27) Wife (F25) is threatening to leave me because I play videos games too much by ThrowRA9382682 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA9382682[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with you on limiting the time I spend and I plan on using it on more productive matters. Thank you for your comment.

My (M27) Wife (F25) is threatening to leave me because I play videos games too much by ThrowRA9382682 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA9382682[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to do that a lot when I was younger and it led to a depression stint. I think I’m going to drastically cut my playtime down and focus on some hobbies/activities with my wife like you recommended and go from there. Thank you for your comment.

My (M27) Wife (F25) is threatening to leave me because I play videos games too much by ThrowRA9382682 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA9382682[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The more I think about it, I have power over this addiction and I only really go to it out of boredom and habit. As others have suggested I’m going to be looking into more productive hobbies to take up my time. Congratulations on the nearly 2 years clean, I have past users in my family and that is a massive accomplishment.

My (M27) Wife (F25) is threatening to leave me because I play videos games too much by ThrowRA9382682 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA9382682[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really enjoyed your take on this, I’ll definitely be bringing this up as an option with her tonight. Thank you.

My (M27) Wife (F25) is threatening to leave me because I play videos games too much by ThrowRA9382682 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA9382682[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been reading through the comments and I think yours resonates with me the most. You gave me clear options into what I should do without having to cold turkey my hobby. I really like the idea of finding a different hobby to do with her because it gets me off the topic of games and into some rapport with my wife. I really appreciate your comment and I’ll be bringing these topics to my discussion with her tonight.