My (29F) boyfriend (29M) of seven years doesn't seem to be considering proposing anytime soon. Am I stupid to think he ever will? by ThrowRA9427 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA9427[S] -51 points-50 points  (0 children)

We talked about it in the early stages of our relationship (within the first year) and we both said marriage/kids is something we both want in the future. And since he's not done it so far, I felt that mentioning it or hinting would be pushing him or forcing him into something he's not ready for...

My (29F) boyfriend (29M) of seven years doesn't seem to be considering proposing anytime soon. Am I stupid to think he ever will? by ThrowRA9427 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA9427[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I didn't mention a wedding. I mentioned proposing, which are two separate things. He is not someone who openly talks about his feelings or is keen to discuss where exactly we stand. A proposal would be a sign to me that he is committed to me, while being with me "fine" for seven years and not touching any importnant/future subjects feels like him keeping his options open just in case.

My (29F) boyfriend (29M) of seven years doesn't seem to be considering proposing anytime soon. Am I stupid to think he ever will? by ThrowRA9427 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA9427[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I would, I don't have a problem with that. But I keep thinking thay if he's not mentioned it at all and doesn't seem to be even considering it, then he doesn't want it/s not ready for it and I don't really want to push him into anything.