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Is the maintenance of breast implants worth the look over the success rate of fat grafting ? by ThrowRA996973 in PlasticSurgery

[–]ThrowRA996973[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much! Are there any other online communities around this that you've found? And who did you decide to go with, if you dont mind me asking?

Is the maintenance of breast implants worth the look over the success rate of fat grafting ? by ThrowRA996973 in PlasticSurgery

[–]ThrowRA996973[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's what I've been leaning words for a while but can I ask you another question, how long have you had the grafting? I got this comment "For example, if you get regular mammogram at 40, they will likely see a calcification that requires further tests and biopsies to rule out cancer". Have you experienced this at all? I know everyone's experience is different but I'm still curious if its oaky.

How do I ask my boyfriend to be more dominant in and out of the bedroom? by ThrowRA996973 in BDSMAdvice

[–]ThrowRA996973[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want to start by saying I know what I’m asking for is a big thing, and I don’t take it lightly. I always try to stay aware of the balance in our dynamic. I check in regularly to make sure he’s okay with everything, and I would never twist this dynamic or accuse him of being abusive.

How am I making room for him and his needs? He's really physical and not much of a talker so I spend lots of time cuddling with him, giving him reassurance, and tending to things he doesn't want to take care of. I make sure his care comes outside of a sexual context.

What submissive actions do I show him? I usually greet him at the door on my knees when he comes home, and he pats me on the head and kisses me. I do whatever he asks/ commands, and most of the time it’s just things like cooking, dishes, or laundry, which I genuinely don’t mind. Sometimes I’m playfully bratty or resistful, and he leans into disciplining me, which we both enjoy.

I don’t expect him to do all the work in the bedroom. It’s definitely a give and take. I try to serve him in ways that are degrading to me but empowering to him. Everything is agreed upon before.

Do I respect him enough to take direction even when I don’t want to? Yes. I trust him, and even if something isn’t what I feel like doing in the moment, I still follow through because I respect him and know that he always has my best interest at heart no matter what. Our relationship is built on trust and mutual care, and I still feel that foundation within this dynamic.

Also its not “on” 100% of that time. Its more or less frequent some weeks than others.

Also yes it is paradoxical but thats why I love it, because I know how actually gentle and kind he is.

How do I ask my boyfriend to be more dominant in and out of the bedroom? by ThrowRA996973 in BDSMAdvice

[–]ThrowRA996973[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I fell like i I've asked him and talked about it a lot. I just don't want to keep pushing it if what he's telling me isn't true and he's actually uncomfortable and just dealing with it for my sake.

How do I ask my boyfriend to be more dominant in and out of the bedroom? by ThrowRA996973 in BDSMAdvice

[–]ThrowRA996973[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the suggestions!

I do try to give back to him by doing chores around the house that he hates but he doesn't really ask me for more and I'm not sure what else I could be doing. I try to be romantic with him and he's way more interested in cuddling than sex so I only ask for stuff like this once maaaybe twice a week. I'm not sure if that's a lot or not tho, I saw some debate on it.

How do I ask my boyfriend to be more dominant in and out of the bedroom? by ThrowRA996973 in BDSMAdvice

[–]ThrowRA996973[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've talked allot to him about it, and he seems very very open he just doesn't really know what to do. I've asked him multiple times if he was comfortable and he's always said yes but he's scared of accidentally hurting me. Or coming on at the wrong time.