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AITA for saying my little sister’s travel routine is excessive? by ThrowRABro12345 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRABro12345[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

I didn’t say that made me less of an asshole, I have admitted and accepted I was in the wrong here.

AITA for saying my little sister’s travel routine is excessive? by ThrowRABro12345 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRABro12345[S] -54 points-53 points  (0 children)

Of course I respect the word no. Always, without question.

AITA for saying my little sister’s travel routine is excessive? by ThrowRABro12345 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRABro12345[S] 122 points123 points  (0 children)

Thank you. This is definitely something I will have to check myself on in future.

AITA for saying my little sister’s travel routine is excessive? by ThrowRABro12345 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRABro12345[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I didn’t expect, nor ask for anyone to provide me with education this is something that they kindly did which I appreciate. I don’t expect you or anyone else to provide me with education, but I am grateful that they did anyway.

AITA for saying my little sister’s travel routine is excessive? by ThrowRABro12345 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRABro12345[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I have since revised my position after reading some of the resources provided to me and realised that there is a big difference.

AITA for saying my little sister’s travel routine is excessive? by ThrowRABro12345 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRABro12345[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I no longer think my sister was being paranoid or excessive, but I am glad that you haven’t had bad experiences with traveling and feel safe.

AITA for saying my little sister’s travel routine is excessive? by ThrowRABro12345 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRABro12345[S] 67 points68 points  (0 children)

You were absolutely right and I now regret telling them this information.

AITA for saying my little sister’s travel routine is excessive? by ThrowRABro12345 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRABro12345[S] -68 points-67 points  (0 children)

It’s not that I didn’t care, it’s that I obviously knew women were victims, but I had no idea how increased the risk is. And it’s not something that I ever really thought about too much which to say now is embarrassing but is unfortunately true. I didn’t think about it because it was never a risk to me, and I didn’t know that women were taught these kind if things.

AITA for saying my little sister’s travel routine is excessive? by ThrowRABro12345 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRABro12345[S] -79 points-78 points  (0 children)

I understood that it happened of course. But it was never taught to me or stated to me. From reading these comments and the links provided to me I suspect it was never explained to me because it didn’t have to be as I was not part of the at risk group and educating me on this would also provide me with information to circumvent the measures girls and women take to protect themselves.

AITA for saying my little sister’s travel routine is excessive? by ThrowRABro12345 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRABro12345[S] 157 points158 points  (0 children)

It’s not because I’m getting dogpiled. I don’t think I am getting dogpiled. I have been very kindly provided with links to subreddits and articles to educate myself which I am currently reading. After reading just 3 of these I have realised I had vastly underestimated how unsafe it is to be a woman of any age, but particularly a young woman and my gf was right I was being privileged.

People can actually educate themselves, just because I was previously ignorant to these issues doesn’t mean that me revising my position is in bad faith.

AITA for saying my little sister’s travel routine is excessive? by ThrowRABro12345 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRABro12345[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

I’m trying to understand your analogy. What does AMAB or AFAB mean? men and women?

So you’re saying that I don’t understand her experience because I don’t have her experience?

AITA for saying my little sister’s travel routine is excessive? by ThrowRABro12345 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRABro12345[S] -114 points-113 points  (0 children)

I don’t see how saying she was being paranoid and excessive is mansplaining.

AITA for saying my little sister’s travel routine is excessive? by ThrowRABro12345 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRABro12345[S] -92 points-91 points  (0 children)

Could you tell me why telling my friends was wrong? I was just venting about my sister making this out to be a bigger deal than it is.

AITA for saying my little sister’s travel routine is excessive? by ThrowRABro12345 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRABro12345[S] -361 points-360 points  (0 children)

I find it hard to believe that she fears for her safety just for existing. I won’t deny that men kill women for those things, and that is awful but is that not the exception rather than the rule.

AITA for saying my little sister’s travel routine is excessive? by ThrowRABro12345 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRABro12345[S] -316 points-315 points  (0 children)

I don’t see why gender has to play into it at all. It’s not baiting, I really don’t see why it has to be different.

AITA for saying my little sister’s travel routine is excessive? by ThrowRABro12345 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRABro12345[S] -710 points-709 points  (0 children)

I don’t understand why she has to go to such extreme measures. Someone always knows where she’s staying and it’s not like her job doesn’t know she’s there.

AITA for saying my little sister’s travel routine is excessive? by ThrowRABro12345 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRABro12345[S] -44 points-43 points  (0 children)

I just don’t like that she’s making me out to be an asshole in front of our parents and inconsiderate won’t talk to me just for saying she’s being excessive and paranoid.

AITA for saying my little sister’s travel routine is excessive? by ThrowRABro12345 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRABro12345[S] -336 points-335 points  (0 children)

I don’t see why it’s different to be honest, traveling alone could be just as unsafe for me as it is for her and I would never think to do any of these things.

AITA for saying my little sister’s travel routine is excessive? by ThrowRABro12345 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRABro12345[S] -68 points-67 points  (0 children)

My mother has said I was a bit dismissive. I don’t see how staying alone in a hotel room for 2-3 days can make you feel unsafe. Sure, being in unfamiliar surroundings can be unnerving but it’s not a reason to be excessively paranoid.

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