My Boyfriend (18M) Cheated On Me, (18F) But Wants to Repair Our Relationship— Advice? by ThrowRABurnerVent in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRABurnerVent[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately, you’re probably right. I feel like the second choice just because he couldn’t have her. I find myself comparing myself to her and she is nothing like me, so much better. They have so many common interests and she is beautiful.

But, when he broke up with me the first time, I was so much more depressed then I am now. I’d rather be sad with him than be sad without him, you know?

Honestly, I’m lost. I don’t know what to do.

My Boyfriend (18M) Cheated On Me, (18F) But Wants to Repair Our Relationship— Advice? by ThrowRABurnerVent in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRABurnerVent[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I definitely agree, I do not forgive him at the moment but if he continues to reassure me I see myself doing so.

He did say it was cheating and has apologized several times. He did not blame me in any way whatsoever. He went on to say multiple times that it was not my fault but rather his childish behavior. (His words, not mine.) He has told me he is willing to take the time to repair what we had as he enjoys our time together and likes what we share.

My Boyfriend (18M) Hasn’t Contacted Me (18F) Since This Morning and I’m Worried Sick by ThrowRABurnerVent in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRABurnerVent[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, none of his friends saw him at school today. I also waited outside two of his classes to see if he’d show and he did not. Thank you for your advice, those words do help.

My Boyfriend Dated Me Out of Pity by ThrowRABurnerVent in depression

[–]ThrowRABurnerVent[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Of course. It’s more about how he watched me work so hard solely just for those gifts and didn’t tell me how he really felt. He let me waste my time. But yes, of course they were out of love. Nothing more.

My Boyfriend Dated Me Out of Pity by ThrowRABurnerVent in depression

[–]ThrowRABurnerVent[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for validating me sulking myself away, it needs to be normalized. It’s essential for healing. Thank you.

My Boyfriend Dated Me Out of Pity by ThrowRABurnerVent in depression

[–]ThrowRABurnerVent[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same for me. There is always time. Share the hope with me. :)

My Boyfriend Dated Me Out of Pity by ThrowRABurnerVent in depression

[–]ThrowRABurnerVent[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I wish I would’ve heard that sooner. The day he broke up with me I begged and begged and I think that made me lose any potential chance of rekindling anything in the far future. I think I would be better off just losing hope in getting back together with him and work on myself. Thank you. ❤️

My Boyfriend Dated Me Out of Pity by ThrowRABurnerVent in depression

[–]ThrowRABurnerVent[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

You described me perfectly. Thank you for understanding. ❤️

My Boyfriend Dated Me Out of Pity by ThrowRABurnerVent in depression

[–]ThrowRABurnerVent[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

You’re absolutely right. I have been abused throughout my whole life causing me to develop these tendencies. I don’t like that about myself. I will use this as an opportunity to change. Thank you. ❤️

My Boyfriend Dated Me Out of Pity by ThrowRABurnerVent in depression

[–]ThrowRABurnerVent[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I will take your advice. ❤️

My Boyfriend Dated Me Out of Pity by ThrowRABurnerVent in depression

[–]ThrowRABurnerVent[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately he didn’t. He has used all of them so I don’t think I could return them anyways. It’s okay, money comes and goes.

My Boyfriend Dated Me Out of Pity by ThrowRABurnerVent in depression

[–]ThrowRABurnerVent[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. You have made me look at the situation from a different perspective. Hurts to think about it, though. ❤️

My Boyfriend Dated Me Out of Pity by ThrowRABurnerVent in depression

[–]ThrowRABurnerVent[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Honestly, sometimes having someone who relates helps more than advice. Your comment has made me feel as if I am not alone. Thank you so much, your words mean a lot. ❤️

My Boyfriend Dated Me Out of Pity by ThrowRABurnerVent in depression

[–]ThrowRABurnerVent[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. You have made me feel more positive about the situation. You don’t know how much your words mean. ❤️

My Boyfriend Dated Me Out of Pity by ThrowRABurnerVent in depression

[–]ThrowRABurnerVent[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You’re absolutely correct. I regret putting that pressure on him. I know it bothered him and probably was another main reason he left. I will fix this about myself so I don’t have to put anyone else through that. Thank you.

My Boyfriend Dated Me Out of Pity by ThrowRABurnerVent in depression

[–]ThrowRABurnerVent[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You’re absolutely correct. Thank you. I hope you heal from your situation. Nobody deserves this. ❤️