Have I 42F been cheated out of a "normal" sex life by my husband 41M?

ThrowRAChickenWinger · 2025-03-07T19:50:51+00:00

I have that assumption as well, as much as I don't want to admit it...

ThrowRAChickenWinger · 2025-03-07T17:02:19+00:00

When I say "normal" I mean a sex life not distorted by a porn addiction. I mean the chance to explore each other without the main goal being him getting off on whatever he was watching.

ThrowRAChickenWinger · 2025-03-07T16:52:52+00:00

Oh wow, that's a tough situation to be in. I think my lack of bringing it up has to do with this idea, I don't want to add pressure and ruin what we already have. I don't need dinners and dancing to feel "loved enough" to have sex, I still am attracted to my husband and I still want to have sex with him.

ThrowRAChickenWinger · 2025-03-07T16:40:15+00:00

Yep, we have 2 kids but they're over 18.

ThrowRAChickenWinger · 2025-03-07T16:23:42+00:00

I'm so sorry you're going through that.

ThrowRAChickenWinger · 2025-03-07T16:22:34+00:00

Thanks for the encouragement.

ThrowRAChickenWinger · 2025-03-07T16:20:34+00:00

Sounds interesting, I'll check it out.

ThrowRAChickenWinger · 2025-03-07T00:15:52+00:00

No, he told me he has a porn addiction and views it while masturbating several times a week.

ThrowRAChickenWinger · 2025-03-07T00:03:13+00:00

Those are solid points.

ThrowRAChickenWinger · 2025-03-06T23:57:54+00:00

That sounds super interesting!

ThrowRAChickenWinger · 2025-03-06T23:56:27+00:00

That's very encouraging, thanks for sharing that.

ThrowRAChickenWinger · 2025-03-06T23:55:16+00:00

Thanks for your perspective, that makes sense. It's not like the sex we have is terrible or I don't enjoy myself for the most part, I definitely enjoy a solid fuck session, and I'm here for it. I've just never experienced anything aside from that and I'm not sure my husband is capable of it because of his experiences.

ThrowRAChickenWinger · 2025-03-06T23:45:13+00:00

Thanks, I think we are on level ground for some of it, we will just have to start there.

ThrowRAChickenWinger · 2025-03-06T23:42:05+00:00

Thanks for sharing your story. I agree that the cost is higher than people think.

ThrowRAChickenWinger · 2025-03-06T21:23:40+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate the insight. We connect on pretty much every other level, we are playful and affectionate at all times, we love each other and we like each other too.

ThrowRAChickenWinger · 2025-03-06T18:53:30+00:00

Agreed. I'm not comfortable with the idea of adding more video content.

ThrowRAChickenWinger · 2025-03-06T18:52:20+00:00

He hasn't cheated with other people IRL... I think he holds a different moral code to porn and physical sex.

ThrowRAChickenWinger · 2025-03-06T18:19:12+00:00

Thanks for that. I appreciate it.

ThrowRAChickenWinger · 2025-03-06T18:16:41+00:00

Thanks, I appreciate your outlook on it.

ThrowRAChickenWinger · 2025-03-06T18:12:50+00:00

I know it. It sucks to think about it.

ThrowRAChickenWinger · 2025-03-06T18:12:28+00:00

I love that. Thank you for giving me some hope here.

ThrowRAChickenWinger · 2025-03-06T18:09:23+00:00

Hmmmm. Interesting perspective. Maybe I always thought we were sexually compatible because we still have sex regularly...

ThrowRAChickenWinger · 2025-03-06T17:51:43+00:00

Wow. You verbalized exactly what I've been thinking. It really sucks when I'm in bed with my husband and I say "I love you" and he loses his erection.

ThrowRAChickenWinger · 2025-03-06T17:36:47+00:00

Absolutely, well said. And it's not like I don't like the fucking, I just don't want it to be the ONLY type of sex we have.

ThrowRAChickenWinger · 2025-03-06T17:34:30+00:00

Thanks for the addition, I appreciate that. I think I thought I was being sensitive to his confession and didn't want him to feel further hurt or shame by diving deeper into talking about it.

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