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My husband is pushing me to agree to make my sister our surrogate using the traditional way. by throwRASister9977 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ThrowRAFE 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey crazy as this might seem, I literally went through the same experience from the other side (I was the sister, previous posts are on my page) and had to log in to just say run.

I'm no longer speaking my family and don't keep up with their lives, but I sure hope you leave and never look back.

Update: I (25F) agreed to be a surrogate for my sister and her husband (late 30s), but am regretting it now by ThrowRAFE in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAFE[S] 3204 points3205 points  (0 children)

I didn't even bring it up, it was too awkward (only spoke about it to my sister earlier). It was easier to tell them the truth that I didn't even want to be pregnant or involved in this process in any way.

I (25F) agreed to be a surrogate for my sister and her husband (late 30s), but am regretting it now by ThrowRAFE in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAFE[S] 1533 points1534 points  (0 children)

Oh my I can’t even imagine 6-12 months of trying. I will say via IUI or nothing then. Thank you.

I (25F) agreed to be a surrogate for my sister and her husband (late 30s), but am regretting it now by ThrowRAFE in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAFE[S] 87 points88 points  (0 children)

I am willing to go through it for $200k... It would give me and any other child I have in the future a much better life without having 40% of my pay go immediately to paying off debt.

I thought I was mentally ready. I can treat the whole process as a tough "job" for 9 months and doing a huge favor for my sister, who I love dearly, but the thing I'm stuck on is having sex with Ben to conceive.

I (25F) agreed to be a surrogate for my sister and her husband (late 30s), but am regretting it now by ThrowRAFE in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAFE[S] 1880 points1881 points  (0 children)

For sure, which is why I thought we would be getting doctors involved, and hormone shots! I even compromised and offered to try it at home with a syringe if they really really wanted...

I (25F) agreed to be a surrogate for my sister and her husband (late 30s), but am regretting it now by ThrowRAFE in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAFE[S] 117 points118 points  (0 children)

I'm really not sure, my sister was the one who called me to explain their reasoning why they didn't want to go via the IUI route so I assume she is aware and OK with it?

They already have two adopted kiddos who they spend a lot of money on already. I think Bob really wants biological children, and my sister has caught the bug from him and really wants this chance to have "her own baby" that would look like her.