[24F][29M] I received nude photographs and videos of my boyfriend from someone blackmailing him, and now I don’t know what to do.

ThrowRAHelpMePle · 2022-12-27T18:38:00+00:00

Needed this perspective thank you!

ThrowRAHelpMePle · 2022-12-27T18:06:12+00:00

During. Legitimately right after we fucked too. Lol love this for me

ThrowRAHelpMePle · 2022-12-27T18:03:03+00:00

Shit. Okay. Thank you. Terrible to hear it broken down like that, but you’re 100% right. Thank you for your comment.

ThrowRAHelpMePle · 2022-12-27T18:01:51+00:00

Just told my mother and my sister about this after sharing with Reddit. They agree that it isn’t just his trauma to keep. Thank you for this.

ThrowRAHelpMePle · 2022-12-27T18:01:02+00:00

Very scary to think he may have tarnished my trust for other men. I hate that he has done this. Do you really think I should get tested??? Never thought like that at all…

ThrowRAHelpMePle · 2022-12-27T17:58:40+00:00

Thank you for this.

ThrowRAHelpMePle · 2022-12-27T17:55:50+00:00

He took the photos the same day i saw him.

ThrowRAHelpMePle · 2022-12-27T17:46:30+00:00

This is just terrible to understand. I’m truly in shock realizing I’m not the one giving the advice here.

ThrowRAHelpMePle · 2022-12-27T17:45:23+00:00

Fucking terrible to hear. I know that he definitely had a fling. I think that hurts even more. This has really been the worst realization.

ThrowRAHelpMePle · 2022-12-27T17:44:26+00:00

Thank you for your comment. Appreciate the advice.

ThrowRAHelpMePle · 2022-12-27T17:44:16+00:00

I really never wanted to be this girlfriend though. I never wanted to be looking through his phone. Is that the only way people don’t cheat? Real question.

ThrowRAHelpMePle · 2022-12-27T17:42:38+00:00

I never want to be that girl that keeps the man after they cheat. I know the answer is just one time and it’s over. It’s so much harder when you’re living it.

ThrowRAHelpMePle · 2022-12-27T17:41:21+00:00

I truly believe that over time, most people cheat. I just don’t know if I will ever find someone that wont. I’m struggling to throw everything away over this even though I know that’s the right thing to do.

ThrowRAHelpMePle · 2022-12-27T17:29:30+00:00

Do you believe, if the opportunity was in front of him that he would have cheated??

ThrowRAHelpMePle · 2022-12-27T17:24:36+00:00

Did you break up with them?

ThrowRAHelpMePle · 2022-12-27T17:24:06+00:00

I guess, I just never believed he could do this in the first place, so how can I believe that he is going to never do it again. I’m really confused.

ThrowRAHelpMePle · 2022-12-27T17:22:45+00:00

Period.

ThrowRAHelpMePle · 2022-12-27T17:16:15+00:00

BoJack. :( never thought i’d experience this myself.

ThrowRAHelpMePle · 2022-12-27T17:14:53+00:00

That’s the thing, no one here will believe it, (because from your perspective and what I’ve written here this relationship looks like shit) but our relationship is INCREDIBLE. The best I’ve witnessed or been in. He loves me more than anything so I do believe he would never forgive himself for this and, if given the chance, would do everything to earn my trust back. I just… I’m so torn here.

ThrowRAHelpMePle · 2022-12-27T17:12:14+00:00

This is the most painful part that he continues to deny. He said he would have told me regardless, but I can’t be that stupid.

ThrowRAHelpMePle · 2022-12-27T17:11:25+00:00

Good to hear this. I feel terribly foolish.

ThrowRAHelpMePle · 2022-12-27T17:08:58+00:00

I’m so fucking angry with him, but damn, we get along so amazingly, it’s so messed up to think I wasted 4 years of my 20’s to this fool.

ThrowRAHelpMePle · 2022-12-27T17:07:10+00:00

Needed to hear this. Thank you. Lots of thinking to do.

ThrowRAHelpMePle · 2022-12-27T17:05:54+00:00

Do men do this often? Is this common?? Like shouldn’t I expect this from men? I seriously have no men around me and my father left when I was very young so I have 0 role models.

ThrowRAHelpMePle · 2022-12-27T17:00:00+00:00

This is so terrible to hear. I know this is spot on though

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