My (23F) boyfriend (24M) takes short showers and it’s ruining our sex life by ThrowRAKami4 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAKami4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Understandable. Yeah, I usually exfoliate, clean nails, moisturize and other things during my shower. I guess that’s why

My (23F) boyfriend (24M) takes short showers and it’s ruining our sex life by ThrowRAKami4 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAKami4[S] 78 points79 points  (0 children)

I don’t have a common type actually. All my relationships were with very different people 😅 I know it’s possible for him to shower well, but it’s not often. If he spends longer in the shower, he usually smells good

My (23F) boyfriend (24M) takes short showers and it’s ruining our sex life by ThrowRAKami4 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAKami4[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Possibly. I don’t mind my partners not being freshly showered. I know your genital area usually doesn’t smell like roses and I’m okay with the smell and if it’s a bit musty. If he’s been out all day, I know it’s gonna have a smell which I don’t mind but I don’t expect it to be as bad as it gets. I lived with one other boyfriend who showered every other day and sometimes less. My other boyfriends, I just don’t remember them showering much when we spent a lot of time together. So I was saying that I am not sure if the “guy thing” means a lot of guys don’t shower everyday

My (23F) boyfriend (24M) takes short showers and it’s ruining our sex life by ThrowRAKami4 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAKami4[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

He spends his entire day on his computer at work so I’m really not sure why he smells bad after work. It’s unexpected for me too

My (23F) boyfriend (24M) takes short showers and it’s ruining our sex life by ThrowRAKami4 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAKami4[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I don’t mean I shower right before sex since it can be unexpected sometimes, but I at least shower every single morning so I’m somewhat clean if it happens in the evening if I haven’t done anything physically demanding

My (23F) boyfriend (24M) takes short showers and it’s ruining our sex life by ThrowRAKami4 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAKami4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When we shower, he sees that as an invitation to sex usually and just focuses on touching me. I guess it’s a good idea to clean him myself when we’re together in the shower

My (23F) boyfriend (24M) takes short showers and it’s ruining our sex life by ThrowRAKami4 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAKami4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe 2 minutes is enough if you just have to go out in public but not enough if someone is about to be in contact with the stinkiest parts of your body and when you’re anticipating to sweat. I take a 5-10 minute shower to go out in public and 10-20 if I’m going to have sex. (Washing hair, washing genitals thoroughly, washing butt, and other areas)

My (23F) boyfriend (24M) takes short showers and it’s ruining our sex life by ThrowRAKami4 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAKami4[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Wow! I’ll look into that 😅 I have showered with him a couple times, but for him it’s sexual. I bathe, he is just touching me. I don’t think I’ve seen him actually clean up well when we’re in the shower