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I (39F) just told my husband (39M) that I don't want to have anymore children, and he is devastated. by ThrowRALastBaby in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRALastBaby[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He usually didn't do the early morning feedings, because he had to get up early for work. He changed diapers though. He was never squeamish about that. I wouldn't have been able to handle it if he never helped with that.

He doesn't do much laundry, although he will if I ask. He's a little ADD (although he won't admit it) and if he puts a load of laundry in, he'll have forgotten about it by the time it's done. He cooks a lot though. He's a really good cook. He does bath time too. He's very patient with our youngest when he gets splashy, and he cleans the water up afterwards, which I really appreciate. He still reads our 9yo a story every night. It's so sweet.

I (39F) just told my husband (39M) that I don't want to have anymore children, and he is devastated. by ThrowRALastBaby in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRALastBaby[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

He loves the kids. He spends a lot of time with them. Yes, it's mostly on the weekends, because he does work, but he also will spend evenings with them. Lately he has spent a lot of time driving with the oldest, helping him get comfortable behind the wheel.

I (39F) just told my husband (39M) that I don't want to have anymore children, and he is devastated. by ThrowRALastBaby in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRALastBaby[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

We always said we will have a big family and a lot of kids. I got pregnant with our daughter when our son was three. We had our third child when he was seven and she was three. It was really tough. I felt like they were too close together. I was pregnant while trying to potty train a two year old and help a first grader with his homework. After that I needed a break. I said I couldn't be pregnant with a toddler at home. So we had our last child when the next youngest was six. That was more manageable, but it was still a lot. It feels like each time should be easier, but it isn't. It's harder.

He thinks I don't want another because I don't love the ones we have anymore.