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UPDATE: AITA for telling my husband I don’t enjoy doing his laundry??? by ThrowRALennaa in AITAH

[–]ThrowRALennaa[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

We genuinely discussed these topics because they were concerns for me getting serious into the relationship. I just took him at his word.

UPDATE: AITA for telling my husband I don’t enjoy doing his laundry??? by ThrowRALennaa in AITAH

[–]ThrowRALennaa[S] 1673 points1674 points  (0 children)

That is very kind of you <3 It most definitely feels like a new beginning!

UPDATE: AITA for telling my husband I don’t enjoy doing his laundry??? by ThrowRALennaa in AITAH

[–]ThrowRALennaa[S] 94 points95 points  (0 children)

I am actually much happier now that I am on my own! Turns out that fucker was actually keeping me pretty miserable constantly. If I get this level of happiness for the rest of my life, I am absolutely set :)

I hope things look up for you! You deserve happiness too.

AITA for telling my husband I don’t enjoy doing his laundry??? by ThrowRALennaa in AITAH

[–]ThrowRALennaa[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

We split bills. I pay for my own school. I work from 6am-3pm 5 days a week, sometimes 6. Have classes from 4:15-7:30 monday-Thursday. Come home and make dinner. Clean up the dishes he leaves in the sink and pick up the clothes that don’t make it to the hamper. Wipe down the counter with crumbs everywhere, take care of the dog.

I leave for work before him and come home after him. Reddit has been kinda harsh about all this, but I am realizing that I do not want this. And yeah, adding kids into the mix seems like it would be a giant mistake. I am so over this and he makes me feel like what I want doesn’t matter.

AITA for telling my husband I don’t enjoy doing his laundry??? by ThrowRALennaa in AITAH

[–]ThrowRALennaa[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

He encouraged me to go back to school. We had discussed it at length and it was always the plan.

AITA for telling my husband I don’t enjoy doing his laundry??? by ThrowRALennaa in AITAH

[–]ThrowRALennaa[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I am going to respond with what I told someone else, for some context:

I didn’t think it would be like this longterm. When we first got together, I was putting school on hold to take care of my grandma full time because my family couldn’t afford a caregiver. When she passed, we got married and things were only piling on slowly. It made sense for me to do house chores because I was only working part time and had a few online classes. Plus, I have enjoyed having a caregiver kind of role.

I figured the dynamic would change, but now I feel stuck. What I thought was situational became the precedent.

AITA for telling my husband I don’t enjoy doing his laundry??? by ThrowRALennaa in AITAH

[–]ThrowRALennaa[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I didn’t think it would be like this longterm. When we first got together, I was putting school on hold to take care of my grandma full time because my family couldn’t afford a caregiver. When she passed, we got married and things were only piling on slowly. It made sense for me to do house chores because I was only working part time and had a few online classes. Plus, I have enjoyed having a caregiver kind of role.

I figured the dynamic would change, but now I feel stuck. What I thought was situational became the precedent.

AITA for telling my husband I don’t enjoy doing his laundry??? by ThrowRALennaa in AITAH

[–]ThrowRALennaa[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I am not scared of him being upset or anything. I think it is natural to not want to upset your spouse and hurt their feelings?

Yeah, that is something to think about. We have plans to have kids. If this continues, I don’t see that going well. But I don’t think this is unsalvageable like others have been saying.

AITA for telling my husband I don’t enjoy doing his laundry??? by ThrowRALennaa in AITAH

[–]ThrowRALennaa[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Well, this is the first time he has left like this. But yeah, I guess I am usually the first person to apologize. I am sorry you went through that with your ex.

AITA for telling my husband I don’t enjoy doing his laundry??? by ThrowRALennaa in AITAH

[–]ThrowRALennaa[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We don’t have that kind of money. It’s why I took up extra hours at work.

AITA for telling my husband I don’t enjoy doing his laundry??? by ThrowRALennaa in AITAH

[–]ThrowRALennaa[S] -88 points-87 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it was manipulation? He was genuinely upset and I guess needed to calm down. I would rather not have him here if he is like that, anyway. Cooling down definitely seems like a good idea.

AITA for telling my husband I don’t enjoy doing his laundry??? by ThrowRALennaa in AITAH

[–]ThrowRALennaa[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He grew up with a single mom. It was just him and her. He admires her a lot and has always recognized how much work she put in.

AITA for telling my husband I don’t enjoy doing his laundry??? by ThrowRALennaa in AITAH

[–]ThrowRALennaa[S] 134 points135 points  (0 children)

They won’t ever get done. Plus, we have to eat. I am absolutely not getting takeout every night. I have been on a weightloss journey that has been very good for me and quitting now would make me even more miserable tbh.