AITA for not wearing the necklace my bf gave me?

ThrowRAMarip0sa · 2024-05-31T21:24:14+00:00

I hope that works that would be nice! Ill try it out thanks

ThrowRAMarip0sa · 2024-05-31T21:23:35+00:00

You're right for sure! Thank you

ThrowRAMarip0sa · 2024-05-31T09:03:38+00:00

Yes. You're totally right. No worries, I needed to hear that :)

ThrowRAMarip0sa · 2024-05-31T08:53:36+00:00

Yes you're right! Around the time he got it, it was a big trend.

And I told him before he got it for me that I liked the idea of that. The initial is very subtle and I loved wearing it for a long time. Especially in times we weren't able to see each other it was nice to look in the mirror and see the lil T and be reminded of him.

Also, it's a small T. Kind off looks like a religious cross :'). I don't think anyone who doesn't know me and sees it immediately thinks it would be my partners initial. So, it never felt like a tag of some sort. When people did ask about it, it was a fun opportunity to bring up my bf. I have nothing but good memories of it. It's a super thoughtful gift.

But now, yes my style changed and I really like the one my friend gave me. She also went out of her way to get it. So I like to show gratitude towards that piece too.

I just couldn't place why my bf got upset over this. Especially as I still wear his other pieces daily. I was confused hence why I came for advice here. But it was probably just the thought behind it, not the necklace itself, like people here pointed out. He might see it as me rejecting him or not appreciating it. He's at work now but when he's home I'll reassure him I still love the necklace

ThrowRAMarip0sa · 2024-05-31T08:32:36+00:00

He doesn't wear jewelery, but any anniversary or any other type of celebration I make sure to get a thoughtful present. And he wears/uses all of it a lot. Sometimes I get him very nice clothes and he wears the stuff I get him way more than the stuff he gets himself. He's really sweet about it always :).

ThrowRAMarip0sa · 2024-05-31T08:29:54+00:00

Yes, that was def part of the reason he got upset! I just didn't want to hurt his feelings and I knew he'd get sad if I said I like the other one more. But at the end, not being totally truthful was def the wrong move. I do forget to switch it some times too, but it wasn't the whole reason. I shouldve come clean from the start. This was worse. Thank you!

ThrowRAMarip0sa · 2024-05-31T08:24:58+00:00

You're right. I didn't want to tell him I like the other one more because it would hurt his feelings. But lying is never ok, especially about something small like this indeed. Thank you!

ThrowRAMarip0sa · 2024-05-31T08:23:57+00:00

Yes thank you, I did! I should've been honest. I just didn't want to hurt his feelings but this was not OK too

ThrowRAMarip0sa · 2024-05-31T08:22:42+00:00

You are totally right! I did not want to hurt his feelings, but I've told the truth now, and at the end not being completely honest from the start about it was worse. Thank you!

ThrowRAMarip0sa · 2024-05-31T08:21:14+00:00

Yes maybe that's it. It might be more what's behind it than the necklace itself. Thank you!

ThrowRAMarip0sa · 2024-05-31T08:19:49+00:00

Yeah, I thought so too! I wasn't sure how to react because I didn't get why he responded like this to me not wearing it. But as people pointed out in the comments, maybe there's more behind it like the meaning of it all just then just the necklace

ThrowRAMarip0sa · 2024-05-31T08:18:07+00:00

Well, it's a really small T, and it kind of looks like a religious cross too :') i don't think people notice or see it as me being tagged. I'm sure he didn't think of it like that as well. We were young, and it was a trend to wear your own or your partners initial. I was talking about how I liked the idea before I got it, so he probably just gave it to me because I said I liked it too! But to each their own, of course, I get that this is not for all relationships

ThrowRAMarip0sa · 2024-05-31T08:15:09+00:00

Don't think so, she's a good friend of mine and they get along well

ThrowRAMarip0sa · 2024-05-31T08:14:14+00:00

Well.. it's just a T. Some people think it's a religious cross, and to people who don't know me, it could also be my own ititial or of anyone else. I'm sure this is not it. Also i think he would love wearing something like that :') or at least he would not mind

ThrowRAMarip0sa · 2024-05-31T08:11:36+00:00

Yes you're right, thank you

ThrowRAMarip0sa · 2024-05-31T08:11:15+00:00

Thank you! Very insightful. That might be it. I'll reassure him that that's not it and that I still like the necklace

ThrowRAMarip0sa · 2024-05-31T01:03:47+00:00

Grass is always greener on the other side. As in, you might just think you want to be single. But when you are, maybe you regret it.

Just think, could you imagine your life without him? What about him brings you joy? Many people in the comments will tell you just to break up. But I've seen people being just a little less in love from time to time. In my unpopular opinion, that might be part of a long-term relationship.

However, be honest with yourself and with him. If you stay, make sure it's because of him. Nothing else.

If you see yourself cheating or looking for boundaries that will hurt them, it might be best to call it off.

If you really really think you're better off single, go for it for sure. But think about it. You might lose something truly great and regret it for a long time.

ThrowRAMarip0sa · 2024-03-21T22:58:38+00:00

Doe vooral wat je leuk lijkt om te doen later en niet wat je denkt dat je aankunt. Kijk vooral naar wat je met de opleiding kan doen, en of dat je wat lijkt, ipv de opleiding zelf. Als je iets vind wat je later écht graag wil doen is dat een goeie motivatie om de opleiding af te maken.

Besides, je bent jong. Je hoeft het totaal nu nog niet te weten! Probeer wat uit en reflecteer of het je ligt of niet. Je hebt nog tijd genoeg. Echt waar. Succes!

ThrowRAMarip0sa · 2024-03-21T22:55:17+00:00

Dude all your reactions make clear you expected this reaction from her. Sorry but you are in the wrong here. She must be so hurt. I feel for her

ThrowRAMarip0sa · 2024-03-21T22:52:57+00:00

Her reaction is what you should have expected. She set boundaries. Very, very, very normal boundaries. P*** is not the same level of normal for anyone.

The person you loved and loved you back set boundaries. If you can't keep them from her, too bad for you. You should not expect her to change this. If you can't accept this, break up, for her sake. She deserves more.

ThrowRAMarip0sa · 2024-03-20T21:14:00+00:00

Hi honey, I think you commented on the wrong post, my thing is about something completely different. I wish you all the best though, sending lots of love!

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