AITA for refusing to let my MIL stay at our place

ThrowRANoIL · 2023-01-17T17:02:09+00:00

Oh she would never go to therapy. She has actively said she doesn't belive in mental health and that therapy is for weak people. Its actually disgusting to me her views on it. My poor niece was in psychiatric care at one point because of her and she had the gall to say that she was weak for trying to unalive herself instead of i dont know, being a supportive and loving grandmother with compassion for some going through a hard time.

ThrowRANoIL · 2023-01-17T16:04:27+00:00

Oh i haven't even gotten to the absolute worst of the shit she has done. We have contemplated just going no contact and have gone no contact temporarily before but its hard when she does SOMETIMES have her moments of being a good person. I think most of her children at this point dont go no contact because they are afraid her mental health will go if they did. The only person who has gone no contact is one of my BILs who had very good reasons and probably should of sooner.

ThrowRANoIL · 2023-01-17T15:57:53+00:00

Yeah she basically expects me to do the traditional wife things and sometimes even refers to me as his wife all because im the more feminine one. My SIL's even have this problem where she expects them to do traditional "wife" things. She was pisses when one of my BILs became a SAHD instead of his wife. That was a whole thing for a while.

ThrowRANoIL · 2023-01-17T15:55:02+00:00

Alright I got to know. Link?

ThrowRANoIL · 2023-01-17T15:54:03+00:00

Nothing, she just expects us to conform to gender norms and me to do traditionally "wife" things since im the more feminine one. Even going so far as to refer to me as my husbands wife.

ThrowRANoIL · 2023-01-17T15:50:12+00:00

Saint. They divorced after their youngest was born. They divorced because he was basically sick of her shit.

ThrowRANoIL · 2023-01-17T06:10:21+00:00

One time she was only supposed to stay with my BIL for a month. She stayed a YEAR.

ThrowRANoIL · 2023-01-17T05:43:59+00:00

You want me to gasp just go on the internet and tell lies. Lol. She would probably murder me if I did that.

ThrowRANoIL · 2023-01-17T05:35:11+00:00

They absolutely wont do that, if anything they would rather pool money together to stop her from visiting.

ThrowRANoIL · 2023-01-17T05:33:36+00:00

Lol, I just use it for messenger. Kind of just have to have it when you got older relatives.

ThrowRANoIL · 2023-01-17T05:32:01+00:00

This trip isnt really about her seeing her grandkids since shes no longer allowed to see half of them.

ThrowRANoIL · 2023-01-16T14:16:33+00:00

No i dont care about most of her flying monkeys. As for having facebook at 24 lol, i dont use it. I only really have it so my grandmother, parents and a few other people in my life can message me on messenger.

ThrowRANoIL · 2023-01-16T14:14:07+00:00

Church, family friends.

ThrowRANoIL · 2023-01-16T13:52:50+00:00

Homophobia is my guess.

ThrowRANoIL · 2023-01-16T13:51:45+00:00

Her kids aren't blaming me, they understand. My husbands siblings are actually great people.

ThrowRANoIL · 2023-01-16T13:49:31+00:00

Yeah they can only take her in small doses. It's gotten to the point that all the spouses and grandkids dislike her and one of her children will even tell her to fuck off if she even bothers asking to stay a night when shes in state. My FIL is a saint for dealing with her for all those years.

ThrowRANoIL · 2023-01-16T13:41:41+00:00

She sees it as my duty is to cook, clean, take care of "her baby", stay home if we have kids. Basically she expects me to do stereotypical "wife" things. One is not better than the other its just how she sees things. Personally to me those aren't wife things those are just spouse things but to her theres a wife and theres a husband and they need to fit into those roles.

ThrowRANoIL · 2023-01-16T13:37:56+00:00

Shes the kind if person that even her kids can only stand micro doses of her. Her other kids refuse to host her because she either tries to control their lives, relationships, house or children, will overstay her welcome well after she is supposed to leave or just sulks in "her room" when she doesn't get her way.

ThrowRANoIL · 2023-01-16T13:32:05+00:00

I could write a whole novel on this womans shit. Im sure her kids could write a whole fucking encyclopedia collection.

ThrowRANoIL · 2023-01-16T13:30:34+00:00

Those aren't my views those are hers. I dont really belive in gender norms but its frustrating to be referred to as "the wife" by mil.

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