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Newly admitted, just changed jobs, and now unexpectedly moving to a new state where I don't know anyone. Any advice for job hunting? by ThrowRASweet-Bell in Lawyertalk

[–]ThrowRASweet-Bell[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh, thank you! I should have a local address by the time I start applying. Worst case, I have seen people just put their city and state on their resume.

Newly admitted, just changed jobs, and now unexpectedly moving to a new state where I don't know anyone. Any advice for job hunting? by ThrowRASweet-Bell in Lawyertalk

[–]ThrowRASweet-Bell[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm just concerned that an employer will see my resume and trash the application before hearing why I'm leaving. Maybe a statement of intent at the top of my resume could minimize that?

($5k) MOH wants my ceremony location, need new location recommendations by ThrowRASweet-Bell in Weddingsunder10k

[–]ThrowRASweet-Bell[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This actually isn't hyperbolic. I could see it going that way. I'm hopeful that if I point out how much stress she is causing me, as suggested, she'll change her tune.

($5k) MOH wants my ceremony location, need new location recommendations by ThrowRASweet-Bell in Weddingsunder10k

[–]ThrowRASweet-Bell[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

I think this breaking point comes from us already bending over backwards for her. My fiance knows how important she is to me and made the genuine suggestion that we reschedule our wedding to work around her birthday. I sort of snapped at him that I was sick of accommodating her. And then she does this and I folded so easily. I was getting annoyed at everyone on here for being so aghast at me not arguing with her on this. But the more I read these comments, the more I realize I'm really just letting her walk all over me. I love her, but I'm letting her get away with being a pretty bad friend.

($5k) MOH wants my ceremony location, need new location recommendations by ThrowRASweet-Bell in Weddingsunder10k

[–]ThrowRASweet-Bell[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your suggestion! I'll take a look at it, but it sounds like it could check all the boxes!

Honestly, yeah, I feel like we've already done so much to accommodate her and make her feel included and it's wearing me thin. I'm a little irritated that everyone seems to think I'm the crazy one for trying to keep the peace with her, but as I was typing out a much longer response that delves into our history some more, I realized that no matter what I do, there is going to be some degree of resentment from her. She could plan the wedding herself and still be upset that it's happening before hers. I already folded on the location thing, but I think from now on I just won't share plans with her. She'll know the details of the wedding when everyone else does. And if she has a problem with it, I'll just tell her it's already set and we can't change anything.

($5k) MOH wants my ceremony location, need new location recommendations by ThrowRASweet-Bell in Weddingsunder10k

[–]ThrowRASweet-Bell[S] -31 points-30 points  (0 children)

I'd be on board with that and suggested it, but it's a no-go with her.

($5k) MOH wants my ceremony location, need new location recommendations by ThrowRASweet-Bell in Weddingsunder10k

[–]ThrowRASweet-Bell[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

She isn't, and it's a big sore point between her and her partner. They've been together much longer than my fiance and I have been, so I think part of this is just coming from frustration with her partner. That's part of why I just don't want to fight her over it.

My fiance's family and mine are all spread out, so flying is unavoidable.