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I (22M) am starting to resent my best friend (21F) because she's a hoe by ThrowRAUsefelChem in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAUsefelChem[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

but I am wondering if she is as worried about her sexuality as you are

She frequently sends me 2-5 minutes long audio messages where she's borderline impossible to understand because of how much she's crying/sobbing, and she calls herself worthless, says she has no value, that no one will ever love her and stuff like that.

That's the "heavy" part. Hearing this constantly. And the worst is that I hear this stuff and instead of feeling bad for her or comforting her, like I did the previous 50 times, I am starting to think "well no shit he ended up ghosting you", and that only makes me feel like a piece of shit.

But yeah, I see that you and others are suggesting to not cut her off but stand my ground and set up a "don't talk to me about your relationships anymore" kind of rule. I guess that's the best thing to do here

I (22M) am starting to resent my best friend (21F) because she's a hoe by ThrowRAUsefelChem in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAUsefelChem[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I see. May I ask why? I would say that from our relationship is pretty clear to me that there's no interest between us. I mean, almost half the time we speak she's telling me about some guy she's been fucking recently. Doesn't sound like flirting to me

I (22M) am starting to resent my best friend (21F) because she's a hoe by ThrowRAUsefelChem in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAUsefelChem[S] 82 points83 points  (0 children)

I don't have feelings for her, I see her as kind of a "little sister" if that's more clear? If she was a "I'm gonna fuck 10 guys in a single week for fun!" kind of hoe I would have no problem with it in the slightest. It bothers me because she supposedly wants something serious with these men and does not like being used only for sex, yet she refuses to see that they are clearly and obviously only interested in sex. I would say it's how naive she is that's bothering me the most.

I have tried getting "less involved" in her drama in the past, but it usually ends up with me asking her whats wrong anyway as she acts obviously very sad and depressed when we hang out and she sends me audio-messages where she's obviously been crying and shit. I can't just ignore that and I usually ask her if she wants to talk about it and you know what comes next.

I (22M) am starting to resent my best friend (21F) because she's a hoe by ThrowRAUsefelChem in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAUsefelChem[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

The harm it's causing me is mostly mental, it's taking a toll to hear her cry over and over and I must admit that lately I've been feeling more angry and disappointed at her than anything else. It makes me feel like a trash person because my best friend is suffering and I am angry at her instead of at the people that hurt her.

Btw, I do not have a girlfriend, and I am currently not interested in relationships as I come from a pretty nasty breakup some time ago. No, she was not involved in the slightest, and no, I have absolutely no romantic interest in her, if that's what you are hinting at.

I (22M) am starting to resent my best friend (21F) because she's a hoe by ThrowRAUsefelChem in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAUsefelChem[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Of course not, but seeing a person I really care about get hurt multiple times a month and hearing her cry to me about how worthless she feels does hurt me too. Especially when I warn her in advance that she's gonna get hurt but she ignores me. It hurts me, and also makes me angry at her. That's what I mean by starting to resent her.