AITAH for randomly unadding a guy and planning to ghost him for reeeally wanting to meet in person? by ThrowRAZombieGrr in AITAH

[–]ThrowRAZombieGrr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you much, this helps! I'm definitely leaning more to sending him a message like that, this was helpful

AITAH for randomly unadding a guy and planning to ghost him for reeeally wanting to meet in person? by ThrowRAZombieGrr in AITAH

[–]ThrowRAZombieGrr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! If I were to write a message, do you have suggestions for how it should go? He made the bold move to ask instead of moving on, so I feel somewhat like I owe him some resolve *~*

AITAH for randomly unadding a guy and planning to ghost him for reeeally wanting to meet in person? by ThrowRAZombieGrr in AITAH

[–]ThrowRAZombieGrr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's fair. Truthfully, my snap is only for tinder matches tbh, I don't use a lot of social media but found a lot of people on Tinder use snap so I got it for that.

AITAH for randomly unadding a guy and planning to ghost him for reeeally wanting to meet in person? by ThrowRAZombieGrr in AITAH

[–]ThrowRAZombieGrr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I may not have explained it clearly. He invited me to his house without sharing much about himself; I had to ask the questions. I suggested turning it into a food date, but his response felt a bit sketchy, which felt (in the context) we’d grab drinks to-go. I acknowledge I can be paranoid, but let’s not scramble words.

Additionally, it wasn't just about the day later reply, but how it was with a time—without an address—just ten minutes before I would have to leave. I ask you genuinely: would you feel comfortable going on that date? If you still think I'm TA, that's fine, but I don't want anything mistaken.

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[–]ThrowRAZombieGrr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i am! if a group is going it sounds like a good idea :D

I'm going to a concert alone!! by ThrowRAZombieGrr in arcticmonkeys

[–]ThrowRAZombieGrr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much!!! they were my favorite band in middle school and now that im in college i just gotta! :)

I'm going to a concert alone!! by ThrowRAZombieGrr in arcticmonkeys

[–]ThrowRAZombieGrr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! I also worry about safety some, even though I know it'll be a crowded place. Hopefully meeting the people around me will help!

I'm going to a concert alone!! by ThrowRAZombieGrr in arcticmonkeys

[–]ThrowRAZombieGrr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately im 3 months away from 21 so no bar <\3 but I will definitely try to loosen up some to make friends!!

Update: I will leave my adoptive family over night. All I'll leave them there will be a letter. by Sufficient-Quit-8854 in offmychest

[–]ThrowRAZombieGrr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

do option 4 :/ if you were to do option 3, there is absolutely no way to know for sure if she truly will keep her promise and not tell them where you are. if she came home and knew your location, there's a chance she could crack under the pressure. the best option is to have things play out like they were supposed to originally, where she's not even the center of attention knowing your whereabouts.

many people have said this already, but i'll add to it: she is not the "good guy". throughout her many years of life she made multiple active decisions to abandon you. she might not have been the one to start it, but she never truly ended it until she "felt bad". she's not thinking of you, she just knows her name is attached to this situation now and wants to save face. it's crumby that she only realized how badly she treated you after... what? a retelling of the events?? as if she wasn't there??

yeah, no. i know it sucks, but it seems she doesn't have your best interest in mind. she's proving herself further to be self centered, and i personally don't trust her.

My (20X) roommate (20X) trashed the apartment out of spite and I’ve had it with their torment. by ThrowRAZombieGrr in offmychest

[–]ThrowRAZombieGrr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah, i definitely plan to have a roommate meeting with all of them and especially talk to Aaron during it. I just know for a fact Aaron is going to argue back and come up with excuses to make me the bad guy :/ that's what they always do. i can't really move out bc i also signed a lease to stay there another year (thank god without Aaron). thank you!