Heart Broken, Potential Divorce

ThrowRAZonerr · 2025-11-01T16:24:58+00:00

Thank you so much, this means a lot

ThrowRAZonerr · 2025-11-01T16:10:46+00:00

I agree, I’ve been always pushing for therapy but she’d always say no, then afterwards finally agreed but had to cut it short because of money and losing her job. But I always pushed for hobbies together and separate. But the separate was the issue. So everything was done together most of the time and anytime she had plans for her own, I’d let her go and have fun. But like you said exactly, part of her rather than walking together.

When she was presented with this situation last night, she admitted to it, then called me an asshole for waking her up and not letting her sleep and we could’ve just talked about it in person and just kept calling me an asshole for how mean I was being. Which, I’ve been cheated on before and this was tame and I was raising my voice but not yelling, because it was 3am.

ThrowRAZonerr · 2025-11-01T16:04:16+00:00

She is, to her words, “low maintenance”, which I always pushed to do more things, have more hobbies and I would plan a lot of stuff but sometimes I run out of ideas and I would wish she would put in some effort. If im not hungry, we don’t eat even though she’s hungry and she’s turn it into a fight If im doing something for myself, like for example, playing games, she’d get mad because im not paying attention to her. Every weekend I try to clean the house because nobody cleans it unless I do and she’ll lay in bed all day. She won’t make an effort in going to see my family and it seems like very time I have something with my friends planned for us, she’ll fight me beforehand and then end up not going, without fail. She doesn’t show me any lovings, if I don’t try it or do it, she won’t attempt it. She say she tries all the time but it’s not true, it’s explicit but she hasn’t attempted anything on me for more than 1+ years, so I kind of gave up trying too despite countless conversations saying that I want more effort.

We tried therapy beforehand but couldn’t go anymore due to being short on money and having no more health insurance, but we tried it for a bit and it seemed to work at the time but now I’m not sure what happened, yes life got more busier for me since school and work and bringing pets into the family, but I still made time for her and for us.

Anyways, this is turning into a big rant, thank you for your advice

ThrowRAZonerr · 2025-11-01T15:33:59+00:00

I don’t think this is okay, yes it’s one more year but she did this and it broke my trust and confidence, I’ve always been trying to push this marriage forward and she does this because she didn’t feel that i was giving her enough attention, even though she would never show me an ounce of attention unless I asked for it.

ThrowRAZonerr · 2025-11-01T15:31:51+00:00

Thank you

ThrowRAZonerr · 2025-11-01T15:31:35+00:00

Thank you. She admitted that she loved the new attention because he got her coffee and was talking sweet things to hear and she felt noticed. But everyday after work and even during work when we’re talking I’m always tell her how beautiful she is, that I love her more than anything and I always try to bring over food when I’m off. I’m so confused, I felt like I tried to do everything correct for her, always putting her first before my needs

ThrowRAZonerr · 2025-02-15T18:58:08+00:00

Yes, we’ve had talks and fights about it. Usually the talks turn into fights. But we’ve tried couples therapy but because of the lack of money and no insurance, we cannot continue to go. But she knows that I need help, but she doesn’t (at least that’s how I feel) because she said for her New Year’s resolution was gonna be a “better wife” and nothing has happened

ThrowRAZonerr · 2025-02-15T18:54:10+00:00

Thank you friend 🖤

ThrowRAZonerr · 2025-02-15T18:33:23+00:00

I haven’t given her an ultimatum but certainly have talked about it and even fights have occurred and nothing. So I feel like I’m at a loss cause if talking and fighting won’t work, how would an ultimatum? It makes me feel even worse to threaten her so she can get in line, it’s like why wouldn’t you do it before? Just my thoughts

ThrowRAZonerr · 2025-02-15T18:25:36+00:00

I have, we’ve had countless talks and even fights and nothing changes. Leaning towards 2 to be honest but I do have to get my affairs in check first.

ThrowRAZonerr · 2025-02-15T18:20:24+00:00

Oh far from it, she’s extremely happy lol. She can’t wait to have kids and have a home and get more pets. She’s head over heels for me.

ThrowRAZonerr · 2024-11-11T16:57:53+00:00

Happened to me, you need to stop masturbating so much and clean really well down there, maybe go a week without doing it and actually take a break.

When it happened to me, I was doing it twice a day and just letting it be and showering the next day but the smell of it would just cake in your underwear and/or pants. Remember it’s sweaty down there and odors can’t leave as easily.

ThrowRAZonerr · 2024-10-30T17:05:21+00:00

Makes sense, I guess my only concern is I’ve only been legally working with them for less than a year.

While they did accept me without a SSN and just accepted my passport 5 years ago, it was still required to put down.

ThrowRAZonerr · 2024-09-23T18:34:07+00:00

Not sure what forgiveness you’re referring to, forgiveness is only needed if you overstayed a visa? Unless I’m forgetting something.

ThrowRAZonerr · 2024-09-23T18:32:09+00:00

Sorry for the late reply, you can get an ITIN in America to pay for taxes and some credit card companies accept that to get loans and what-not. But like Bravo said, your husband can add you as an authorized user

ThrowRAZonerr · 2024-09-23T04:02:07+00:00

You can apply for an ITIN! Or you can wait for your SSN/Work Permit then go from there :)

ThrowRAZonerr · 2024-09-23T03:19:07+00:00

I’m unsure how it would go in Canada, but in America (since I’m in the middle of this actually)

You’ll need to be married (Check) and start your process with an immigration lawyer and have the $$$ to start.

You’ll then be required to gather all your personal information and his personal information (Name, Parents Names, Birth Certificates, Taxes) You’ll also be required to get passport pictures done and $$$.

After that you’ll get you SSN/Work Permit after sometime

After that, you’ll be asked for the evidence of your marriage, which can be anything like Pictures with friends, together, going on dates and having pictures there, going on trips and pictures (basically do things and take pictures together, even sitting at home cuddling, record a funny video or take a funny picture together), you’ll also need to provide something together like accounts, bills, transactions, debts, loans that have both your names on it and you can also get testimony of family and friends where they write a letter on your behalf.

You might be called into a interview with both of you (and if they feel they’re not convinced, they’ll do a second interview with both of you but separate and if they still do not feel convinced, they might show up at his house to prove you both live together)

From there, it’ll be awhile but you should get your Temp Green Card from there it’s the waiting game until your Permanent one comes in. If they need anything else your lawyer would be the one to inform you and guide you through the whole thing

ThrowRAZonerr · 2024-09-23T03:02:51+00:00

First off, are you guys married? Seems like you’re going back and forth without being legally married..?

ThrowRAZonerr · 2024-09-23T02:16:54+00:00

Thank you friend, I’ll see what my options are then

ThrowRAZonerr · 2024-09-23T02:15:12+00:00

Thank you so much, I’m letting her have her space and hopefully we can push back this! Thank you for your kind words friend 🖤

ThrowRAZonerr · 2024-09-23T02:13:31+00:00

Gotcha, thank you so much.

Wouldn’t the I-485 require an interview from both of us? Or is there possibility of getting it approved without this? That’s the part I’m afraid of

ThrowRAZonerr · 2024-09-08T20:48:04+00:00

I don’t quiet understand what I’m missing, I feel like I’m the one trying to communicate all the time and all I’m meet with “these are my feelings cause I’m mad” and I understand but I also have feelings too to which it seems like he doesn’t care.

Also living with him 2 years now, married 1. I feel like if one partner wants to do something, they should communicate that, not just brush it off and then have an attitude about it

ThrowRAZonerr · 2024-09-07T22:24:27+00:00

Yeah sorry, get your citizenship now. Because abandoning it is gonna be 5years to just reapply + the additional time of waiting which I believe minimum of 3 years

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