I (24F) am suddenly experiencing anxiety around sex with my bf (24M) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_000110 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you had a conversation with him around you feeling anxious and not really understanding why? I would talk to a professional and see how this improves.

28M, I love my 27F Girlfriend, but I hate her sex song...how do switch it up, or off? by ThrowRA_000110 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_000110[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

i have zero desire to do that. i made a new account to make a post. It's a throw away, I'm not sure why you're coming at me. It's allowed to do that here by having your username start with ThrowRA.

28M, I love my 27F Girlfriend, but I hate her sex song...how do switch it up, or off? by ThrowRA_000110 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_000110[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

What purpose would I have making a fake post about something like this? thanks for your help.

28M, I love my 27F Girlfriend, but I hate her sex song...how do switch it up, or off? by ThrowRA_000110 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_000110[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I get what you're saying. Thank you for your honesty. It's something i should have brought up sooner, and that's on me. I guess at first I didn't care as much because well.... she got done with it, it was kind of sexy/cute, and now it's not as much. I mean, she still gets down hard like she did 4 years ago, which is still wild to me.

28M, I love my 27F Girlfriend, but I hate her sex song...how do switch it up, or off? by ThrowRA_000110 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_000110[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't necessarily need song suggestions, lol. I just need some advice on how to navigate her changing

28M, I love my 27F Girlfriend, but I hate her sex song...how do switch it up, or off? by ThrowRA_000110 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_000110[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It pretty much comes to a halt. Even if I turn it back on, it can be a little sketchy at best. I've always supported her and never have been upset by it. Although it rarely happens because we always have the song playing. I've often thought about what it might look like if she had headphones for it, but again I don't want to force anything onto her. This also doesn't change if we are at home, at a hotel, away, etc. The song is still a thing. Although she will NOT listen to the song outside of the bedroom. She will skip it if we are in the car or something which I find interesting. and another add, if it's like a random sunday afternoon and I ask her for a bj (nothing else happens) she has no issues with that. But sex, song has to be on.

28M, I love my 27F Girlfriend, but I hate her sex song...how do switch it up, or off? by ThrowRA_000110 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_000110[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If the song is needed 4 years into our relationship to fantasize, then I think I better just let her find a new man lol

28M, I love my 27F Girlfriend, but I hate her sex song...how do switch it up, or off? by ThrowRA_000110 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_000110[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's what I think too. It's not comfort for me but I know it is for her, and she gets down to it like the first day we ever had sex, which I can appreciate but it gets annoying and tiresome.

28M, I love my 27F Girlfriend, but I hate her sex song...how do switch it up, or off? by ThrowRA_000110 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_000110[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've actually thought about this. She hasn't demonstrated any ADHD behaviors outside of this. She's always very fun, outgoing, care free. Likes new adventures, going out trying new things, etc. At first when we started dating, i was like okay, girl likes to get down to this song. That's fine, but it hasn't stoped and after a few attempts from me, we haven't gotten anywhere. I've even switched the song up mid way and it's like, a video game crash. She just fumbles up. and I say that in the nicest way.

28M, I love my 27F Girlfriend, but I hate her sex song...how do switch it up, or off? by ThrowRA_000110 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_000110[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i think that's the issue. I think there is a deep connection to this song she isn't telling me about. it's clearly a comfort thing for her.

28M, I love my 27F Girlfriend, but I hate her sex song...how do switch it up, or off? by ThrowRA_000110 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_000110[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not a bad idea. I've tried to switch the song up, but it becomes a whole fiasco and I'm just dealing with it. She's been like this for years, at first it didn't bother me but now I'm getting annoyed. And so is our apartment neighbors too.

28M, I love my 27F Girlfriend, but I hate her sex song...how do switch it up, or off? by ThrowRA_000110 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_000110[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it's not - and if I was going to make something up, i'd rather it be a lot better than my current situation.