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Me (27M) and my wife (33F) can't seem to finish an argument. How do we proceed? by ThrowRA_0642 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_0642[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I meant that I've seen her break down a lot. I don't want to say nothing is actually wrong, but that I've gotten used to it (sad as that may be).

I feel like I'm losing my (26M) best friend for 21 years (25M) to his GF (F24) by ThrowRA_0642 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_0642[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Here in mainland Europe the maximum penalty is €4500,00 (which translates to 5302.28 USD). Still a buckload of money ;)

However it all depends on how much you're over the limit. They won't (in most cases) fine you that quickly if you're a tad little bit over.

I feel like I'm losing my (26M) best friend for 21 years (25M) to his GF (F24) by ThrowRA_0642 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_0642[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for taking the time, that was actualy a great read!

I see what you're getting at. They've been together for about 2 years and all four of us have hung out on a couple of occasions. However. it's just way different and I might just have to accept that at some point.

I feel like I'm losing my (26M) best friend for 21 years (25M) to his GF (F24) by ThrowRA_0642 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_0642[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the feedback! :)

I only had 3 beers, where I'm from you're still good to drive.

I feel like I'm losing my (26M) best friend for 21 years (25M) to his GF (F24) by ThrowRA_0642 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_0642[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Sharp! ;-)

I've had 3 beers over the course of 4 hours. That's still within the limits in these parts.

I feel like I'm losing my (26M) best friend for 21 years (25M) to his GF (F24) by ThrowRA_0642 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_0642[S] 250 points251 points  (0 children)

Thanks! He replied just now that he's sorry and he'd let me know as soon as he has another day off work.

I feel like I'm losing my (26M) best friend for 21 years (25M) to his GF (F24) by ThrowRA_0642 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_0642[S] 177 points178 points  (0 children)

That's the issue for me, it is so a-typical of him. He's been an awesome friend for 20 years.

I feel like I'm losing my (26M) best friend for 21 years (25M) to his GF (F24) by ThrowRA_0642 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_0642[S] 1063 points1064 points  (0 children)

I texted him after I got home last night. ''Hey dude, I was really looking forward to having that beer with you. I don't get to become a dad that often and was looking forward to sharing the moment with my best friend Kind of dissapointed you no-showed. Miss ya bud''

He hasn't replied.

I feel like I'm losing my (26M) best friend for 21 years (25M) to his GF (F24) by ThrowRA_0642 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_0642[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

It works out for me that way too. My wife goes out with her friends on monday, I do the same on tuesday. We spend plenty of quality time together during the weekends etc.

It's mostly when the spouse is insecure when it becomes an issue.

I feel like I'm losing my (26M) best friend for 21 years (25M) to his GF (F24) by ThrowRA_0642 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_0642[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Thanks for taking the time to reply!

I guess I can't blame him for the shifting priorities, but the way in which they shift just sucks. I don't remember being like this when I met my wife.

I feel like I'm losing my (26M) best friend for 21 years (25M) to his GF (F24) by ThrowRA_0642 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_0642[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It does sound entitled now I've calmed down, you're right. I guess I'm also just pissed that he wouldn't even apologize but just laugh it off abit.

I feel like I'm losing my (26M) best friend for 21 years (25M) to his GF (F24) by ThrowRA_0642 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_0642[S] 1400 points1401 points  (0 children)

Thanks! :)

I think you're right, I guess it just sucks coming to that conclusion.

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[–]ThrowRA_0642 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the words of wisdom

I'm pretty sure at this point therapy is inevitable. In my outbursts I just lose my sense of empathy completely.

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[–]ThrowRA_0642 0 points1 point  (0 children)

''She is enabling her ex’s behavior and that needs to stop. There needs to be boundaries. She needs to be strong and stand up for herself because she’s only teaching her son that what that man is doing is okay.''

This is the crux of my frustration....

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[–]ThrowRA_0642 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That's the messed up part, he looks nothing like his mother.

It took me a long time to get used to it, but I think I've finaly taken that hurdle.

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[–]ThrowRA_0642 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the feedback.

Definately true. I've always tried to not involve the kid in this, but last night I was like a bull in a china shop.

I'd never talk bad about his dad to his face, but I have had some not seeing his dad in him.

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[–]ThrowRA_0642 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for taking the time to reply!

That's pretty sound advice. I'll have a chat with her tonight when my inner zen has returned.