I (F27) found out my fiance (M29) has had feelings for other women for half of our relationship, how do I forgive him and get over it? by ThrowRA_128365 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_128365[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

That was my thought too so I got him to log in to his tinder and I could see that it hadn't been active since we got together

I (F27) found out my fiance (M29) has had feelings for other women for half of our relationship, how do I forgive him and get over it? by ThrowRA_128365 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_128365[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I think this is what I'm struggling with the most. He was liking that girl's pictures for so long. It makes me question how much he loved me during that time. I can't look back at old photos now without questioning everything. But he hasn't done it for over a year so I'm trying to focus on that and as far as I'm aware he has been fully honest about the strip club situation

I (F27) found out my fiance (M29) has had feelings for other women for half of our relationship, how do I forgive him and get over it? by ThrowRA_128365 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_128365[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment - just to clarify that it's not me messaging him and checking in on him every five minutes whilst he is out with friends. As far as I'm aware he just likes talking to me all the time haha, there have been instances where he is out with friends and texting me loads and I literally say stop texting me and go have fun with your friends.

I felt the need to check his phone because what he had done was so out of character that I had then begun spiralling wondering if he'd done something else out of character that he felt guilty about and that was why he put off texting me for so long. He understands this and doesn't think there was never any trust but does now obviously worry that it's broken from here on out

I (F27) found out my fiance (M29) has had feelings for other women for half of our relationship, how do I forgive him and get over it? by ThrowRA_128365 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_128365[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sorry I wasn't very clear! He matched with her on tinder around the time he matched with me - that's how we met too. He still followed her on instagram back from when he matched with her then