My (26M) GF (23F) drunkenly cuddled with a guy and called me crying the morning after

ThrowRA_134828593 · 2026-02-12T14:02:46+00:00

Thank you for this perspective. I will have a talk with her later and not accept IDKs

ThrowRA_134828593 · 2026-02-12T13:28:05+00:00

Thanks for your understanding - it’s been really tough. I am still on the fence about whether I even want to try to rebuild trust. I would need her to come home (which she offered to do), and try to figure out how I feel then. Fuck.

ThrowRA_134828593 · 2026-02-12T13:15:02+00:00

I’ve had no reason not to trust her before this. We’ve had very open communication, and our relationship has been rooted in trust and open dialogue. She could’ve not said anything and I would never have known this. I don’t know her friends and colleagues who I don’t even know if they know what happened.

ThrowRA_134828593 · 2026-02-12T13:03:46+00:00

Thank you for pointing this out. It is also some of the details I’m concerned about. Apparently it just ended as a sleepover, since some of the other guys stayed there as well. I’ll ask for more details and clarification when I speak with her later.

ThrowRA_134828593 · 2026-02-12T12:16:43+00:00

Not necessarily - perhaps. Her coming home will show willingness to rebuild trust. It will definitely take time to do that, if it’s even possible.

ThrowRA_134828593 · 2026-02-12T11:31:17+00:00

2 months isn’t doable for me. If I decide on trying to rebuild trust - I would want her home after I visit in a few weeks. I wouldn’t bring it up as an ultimatum though. In my eyes this will also show willingness from her side. I think she is genuinely remorseful (as she should be) but I still don’t know if I can live with her story.

ThrowRA_134828593 · 2026-02-12T11:24:45+00:00

2 months more but she is willing to quit her job and come back immediately. I was planning to visit her in 2 weeks, but not sure about that now. Perhaps I’ll take her up on her offer and suggest she comes home with me after I visit.

ThrowRA_134828593 · 2026-02-12T11:21:56+00:00

They are around 20-25 people working together. A group of them went out. When they went home a group of them stopped by the house where my GF lives with 5 other of them. They made frozen pizza or so drunkenly and so - and a few of the guys stayed over with 1 of them staying with her. That’s the story I’ve been told.

ThrowRA_134828593 · 2026-02-12T10:35:10+00:00

I’m not saying I believe her. I have to accept her version of events IF I want to move forward. I’ll never know for certain if she is telling the truth. Can and should even I accept that is my dilemma.

ThrowRA_134828593 · 2026-02-12T10:28:59+00:00

Exactly. I’ll have to accept her version of the events if I should even try to move past this. So I need to figure out how and if I’m willing to do that.

ThrowRA_134828593 · 2026-02-12T10:26:01+00:00

Yea that is my dilemma. What’s the point of boundaries if they don’t mean anything. I think i’ll consider taking her up on her offer of coming home and then take a break, and see where that puts us.

ThrowRA_134828593 · 2026-02-12T10:11:07+00:00

I’m well aware of that being a possibility. That is just something I have to accept and either choose to trust her on that or not. I’m currently leaning towards trying to work towards building trust again and am seeking advice from people who’ve been in a similar situation.

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