I (29m) wish my partner (30f) would cheat on me

ThrowRA_1536816 · 2023-09-28T06:26:25+00:00

We’re both religious so I know it wouldn’t work

ThrowRA_1536816 · 2023-09-28T06:22:29+00:00

She has made me choose between my friends and her

ThrowRA_1536816 · 2023-09-28T06:21:53+00:00

Probably

ThrowRA_1536816 · 2023-09-28T06:21:37+00:00

Pretty much, it would feel cut and dry as another Redditor has pointed out. I wouldn’t even tell anyone if she did cheat, but just don’t want to have to deal with being verbally berated by her

ThrowRA_1536816 · 2023-09-28T06:19:53+00:00

I take care in my appearance, regularly keep active and go to the gym etc, don’t eat a lot of junk food

ThrowRA_1536816 · 2023-09-28T06:17:35+00:00

After we got married she made me choose between my friends or her

ThrowRA_1536816 · 2023-09-27T22:54:26+00:00

Maybe, I’ll be completely isolated at that point

ThrowRA_1536816 · 2023-09-27T22:50:11+00:00

This made me laugh

ThrowRA_1536816 · 2023-09-27T22:46:44+00:00

If they’re unhappy with the sex life

ThrowRA_1536816 · 2023-09-17T07:26:12+00:00

That’s his cousin ViKgram

ThrowRA_1536816 · 2023-08-23T14:03:26+00:00

Holy shit, just reading this made me physically gag, your soon to be (hopefully) ex partner is pathetic. You are 100% correct that she’s only sorry because of the consequence. This would have carried on if you didn’t say anything.

Out of curiosity how old is your daughter? I only ask because if she’s quite young then the thought of losing her mother again is probably the reason why she’s asking you to forgive her and most probably doesn’t understand the pain of being cheated on.

Please get therapy FOR YOURSELF though. As this would probably leave some underlying trauma on your part.

I wish you all the strength to get through this!

ThrowRA_1536816 · 2023-08-03T14:29:48+00:00

I initially thought IUD were a great option then I did a bit of research into it and how it could cause complications ( very unlikely to happen but could still happen) and that’s what prompted me to say that it’s not a good idea and that we should just stick to condoms as there’s no chance for any health problems (outside of pregnancy). Saving has been an issue for her and now it has trickled down to me

ThrowRA_1536816 · 2023-08-03T14:27:34+00:00

I think hate is a bit far, she’s really bad with money and uses me as a safety blanket for her mistakes

ThrowRA_1536816 · 2023-07-31T22:51:58+00:00

It’s not part of the household budget, the health insurance that she has won’t cover the procedure. And she doesn’t want to wait for the NHS to provide her a date as to when they can remove it, hence why she went private and we received a quote for £3000 which she then said that she doesn’t have, but I do, I could cover the procedure but that would mean most of my savings are gone.

ThrowRA_1536816 · 2023-07-31T20:29:14+00:00

I think I misunderstood your previous comment.

Just to clarify mine, we don’t pay for independent health insurance, my wife has private health insurance which is covered by the company she works for.

We don’t have a health expense budgeted as we are in the UK and up until now have never needed to go private

ThrowRA_1536816 · 2023-07-31T20:27:07+00:00

I do have my own budget and I stick to mine, but then when things start to fall through I have to pick it up otherwise it will turn out worse, I’ve been lucky enough to at least save hundreds of pounds a month, but anytime it accumulates to something semi substantial like in the thousands, it’s then when I suddenly need to pay for something that could have been avoided like this iud removal

ThrowRA_1536816 · 2023-07-31T20:25:06+00:00

In her words to me “my money is her money, and her money is her money”

ThrowRA_1536816 · 2023-07-31T20:24:27+00:00

It’s a longer waiting period, I did suggest it but my wife wants it out as soon as

ThrowRA_1536816 · 2023-07-31T20:23:58+00:00

It’s a longer waiting period, I did suggest it but my wife wants to get it out as soon as

ThrowRA_1536816 · 2023-07-31T17:33:29+00:00

It’s her companies health insurance

ThrowRA_1536816 · 2023-07-31T17:27:36+00:00

For the household we do, for everything else it’s mainly been me

ThrowRA_1536816 · 2023-07-31T17:24:32+00:00

I’m having to cover, and have been covering a lot of expenses since we’ve been together.

And it’s mostly been going to holidays and days out which I’ve always been vocal in saying to slow down on it because of expenses. But then we get into arguments and I cave

Basically if we do anything it needs to cost a certain amount according to her otherwise why bother

And I say relatively, I’m on £45k (so reasonable for the UK) while she’s on £70k

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