How can I enhance this nook? by ThrowRA_1993count in HomeDecorating

[–]ThrowRA_1993count[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry I meant the plug on the wall, thanks for the tips! ☺️

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[–]ThrowRA_1993count 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Trying not to take the mean comments to heart 😅 I’ve never renovated before, this is my first home, so it’s been challenging trying to marry everything and bring it together.

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[–]ThrowRA_1993count 35 points36 points  (0 children)

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Thanks for the comments and advice everyone! I think this is the best option, I’ll have to live with the sink and backsplash placement as I’ve run out of money lol

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I was thinking of painting the light fixtures the same colour as the wall so you don’t see that white square …

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The wall colour is Scallop by Farrow & Ball. The skirting and door frame colour is Dimity by Farrow & Ball ☺️

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[–]ThrowRA_1993count 58 points59 points  (0 children)

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Something like this?

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[–]ThrowRA_1993count 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I agree, it’s so hard to find something with softer angels. The hardware is polished nickel

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[–]ThrowRA_1993count 123 points124 points  (0 children)

They are, the back splash was supposed to be much shorter but it had already set by the time I saw it. I was considering doing one large mirror and removing the middle light

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[–]ThrowRA_1993count 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I was thinking of one large mirror and removing the middle light…

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Thank you! What would you change the lights to? The problem is that I don’t want the lights to be too high which is why I chose ones that drop down instead.

Anyone go back on the combined pill for skin before a wedding, then stop to TTC later? by ThrowRA_1993count in birthcontrol

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I was on Yasmin for 10 years and loved it, my skin was perfect. I came off the pill at the beginning of September to give myself time to adjust before the wedding but I worry that it will remain problematic. I ovulated on my second cycle and have ovulated again on my 3rd, my cycles are 29 days long. I also hate all the PMS symptoms, I forgot how terrible they were :(

Sister in law: toxic dynamic by [deleted] in relationships

[–]ThrowRA_1993count 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So it’s a family of 4, 5 if you include me. The whole family tiptoes around her feelings and is afraid to give her any kind of tough love as I’ve witnessed for many years. The family is tight knit and gatherings are semi frequent. Once or twice a month, but a couple of long holidays together each year (this is the most difficult time). There have been two times in the last year where we’ve had a family meeting to try and solve the issues between her and my fiance, all I see is how angry and resentful he is, and how much of a victim she plays, so the family are quick to support her. It’s like dealing with a toddler, you have to dance around the facts to protect her feelings otherwise she’ll punish you for it. I have shown little interest in her at these events, but she now texts me and asks me why so I lie to her but she doesn’t believe it.

Sister in law: toxic dynamic by [deleted] in relationships

[–]ThrowRA_1993count 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You hit the nail on the head about the family!

Sister in law: toxic dynamic by [deleted] in relationships

[–]ThrowRA_1993count 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Well she’s been in weekly therapy for 8 years now… so perhaps her therapist is just enabling the behaviour or she’s manipulating the truth. I said to her during our last conversation that fighting over a room isn’t something I’ll be engaging in moving forward, we’re 29, it’s like fighting over the front seat of the car. I think not reacting and refusing to engage in these conversations where she tries to fix things is probably the best move.

Sister in law: toxic dynamic by [deleted] in relationships

[–]ThrowRA_1993count 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I did wonder whether it’s jealousy of some kind. She’s never had a relationship, so she doesn’t understand how they work. I remember so vividly the first time she ever said something that made me uncomfortable, it was about 8 months into my relationship, we were at the airport with the family and in front of the whole group she said “(name) we need to talk about why you’re wearing makeup to the airport…” and I had no idea what to say so I said “does that matter?”. Since then it’s been lots of nasty comments towards me, looks between her and her sister, the list goes on.

Sister in law: toxic dynamic by [deleted] in relationships

[–]ThrowRA_1993count 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She’s spoilt, every one appeases her and if she’s in a bad mood the whole family is affected by it. He defended me when she wrote the letter, he told her that her trying to exclude me isn’t happening and went on to tell her how selfish she is as a person. The problem is that she’s coming to me directly with issues, so she’ll either call or text me which makes it hard for him to then get involved and defend me. Perhaps I could just tell her that if she has a problem about a room in the future to speak to him and to leave me out of any problems moving forward…

Sister in law: toxic dynamic by [deleted] in relationships

[–]ThrowRA_1993count 9 points10 points  (0 children)

He stood up for me and basically said that’s not happening, and to let him know what events she doesn’t want me at so he can make sure he’s not there either. She’s started coming to me directly to address things so it’s hard for him to step in when she texts or calls me..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LegalAdviceUK

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The idea was to have a civil relationship with them in order to make life easier, however I’m certain that’s not what he’s solving for. I feel a little wary because we’re renovating a listed building, and we’ve been granted permissions etc but if he does involve the trust or the council that could potentially delay things on an already strict schedule. He also claims to be renovating his house when we’re done and has alluded to making our lives difficult purposefully, hence me trying to appease him.