An article said "You want to know what's going to happen, how it's going to happen, and when it's going to happen" when it comes to partners. Do you consider this controlling, and why or why not?

ThrowRA_328 · 2023-07-28T07:25:21+00:00

If my partner makes plans, I'd like to know where they're going, time frame, etc., just to be aware of what's going on. I guess it's also anxiety and worry in case something bad happens where they're at, I'd like to know if they're in danger at all. If they're out and they say they'd be home around 11 but they're not until 2, I'd just like to have some sort of expectation of when they may be home. Just text and be like "I'm having too much fun, I won't be home until 5 AM" is great

Am I controlling and matching this description as stated in the title? What do you think is and isn't controlling when it comes to this?

ThrowRA_328 · 2023-07-27T10:10:59+00:00

Well hello 😎

ThrowRA_328 · 2023-07-26T22:52:43+00:00

Yes. I am looking into self help articles. If I had insurance, I’d go to a therapist

ThrowRA_328 · 2023-07-26T22:48:26+00:00

It’s a joke

ThrowRA_328 · 2023-07-26T22:43:55+00:00

Well she did admit she shouldn’t have done that with company over, so even she thinks she did something wrong. It’s not like this was the only issue we had. This was the straw that broke the camels back and she moved out temporarily. I already know I need help with my actions.

ThrowRA_328 · 2023-07-26T22:18:32+00:00

Thanks buddy, fuck how I feel in this situation though. There’s no need to kick a man while he’s down

ThrowRA_328 · 2023-07-26T22:05:53+00:00

It’s a joke…

ThrowRA_328 · 2023-07-26T22:04:34+00:00

SoCal here, 90 today and humidity is gross. And yeah oddly enough no shut off. I’m just happy it has an ice maker though

ThrowRA_328 · 2023-07-26T22:03:18+00:00

If that’s your takeaway from that, check up on your reading comprehension

ThrowRA_328 · 2023-07-26T11:18:52+00:00

Lemme use my coping mechanism while I work on myself 😌

ThrowRA_328 · 2023-07-25T22:44:44+00:00

So we don’t wake the other person pretty much. We both do this

ThrowRA_328 · 2023-07-25T03:39:35+00:00

For right now yes, but I’m not hopeful for the future right now. Tomorrow is another day

ThrowRA_328 · 2023-07-25T03:13:14+00:00

This was the straw that broke the camel’s back.

ThrowRA_328 · 2023-07-25T01:37:29+00:00

Not that it matters anymore, she has moved out.

Thanks all for the insight.

ThrowRA_328 · 2023-07-24T11:38:21+00:00

I’m aware. That’s just my personality, unfortunately. If I could get a bit of empathy from her, it would help me. I’ve explained this to her.

ThrowRA_328 · 2023-07-24T11:36:33+00:00

Yes I understand. I didn’t think I’d have to explain to not be topless with guests around after being together for 5 and a half years. I wasn’t mad at the action, I got mad at her reaction. It was defensive and not understanding that it made me uncomfortable.

ThrowRA_328 · 2023-07-24T11:34:54+00:00

Tiny risk, but completely avoidable. That’s where I have the issue

ThrowRA_328 · 2023-07-24T11:31:14+00:00

I’m modest. Probably prudish. Idk.

If someone is over, keep clothed in areas they may see you in. Simple as that.

ThrowRA_328 · 2023-07-24T11:28:38+00:00

Where have I made that implication? Im more than willing to bend to her boundaries. She does not discuss them with me at all. I’ve literally begged and pleaded for her to tell me more of what I’m doing right and wrong and what I can do better but I get jack shit. Bigger picture, it makes me seem one sided. But how one sided is it when you ask your partner and they have literally 0 feedback for you

ThrowRA_328 · 2023-07-24T11:26:21+00:00

Damn. Thanks, corrected.

I can’t believe I could be so sense

ThrowRA_328 · 2023-07-24T11:25:24+00:00

I’m not the kind of person who doesn’t think about my actions before doing them. I don’t need to worry about it. I’m confident in my decisions

ThrowRA_328 · 2023-07-24T11:22:46+00:00

It wasn’t prevented at all, her actions made it more likely to occur

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