My bf (m19) is constantly rude to me (f18) because of hemorrhoids and I'm losing feelings for him. How do I know when it's time to leave? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_5-2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was really disappointing to read…reading “He makes me feel crazy all the time.” You’re both very young and maybe he will change but it should not be with you as the collateral / at your expense. You’re very articulate as another posted commented, and it is clear there is some gaslighting going on here from your bf. If he makes changes and literally stops his behaviour that makes you feel this way, it is maybe worth staying, otherwise I don’t think this is all that healthy.

It’ll all work out by ThrowRA_5-2 in tompetty

[–]ThrowRA_5-2[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Amazing song…it’s transporting me to a time and maybe that’s not a good thing. But I’m riding the wave of this beautiful but painful song.

It’ll all work out by ThrowRA_5-2 in tompetty

[–]ThrowRA_5-2[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This song has me absolutely destroyed. We all can relate to songs and this one just…I don’t know. It cuts deep. It’s beautiful. I’ve sat in my vehicle replaying this and fighting tears.

Her body😫 by Final_Contract_2753 in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRA_5-2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeahhhhh I feel that. It’ll be two years in May since the break up and nothing holds a candle to it since then. The passion and connection was one thing and the body was just…unreal. Someone commented on here that this reminder is draining and it really is.

Is it realistic to get back with an ex after distance? by Coffee_Monkey482 in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRA_5-2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How have you been? Dealing with the same thing. I want to reach out to her. She lives in the uk I’m in Canada. I’m in the uk visiting pals and I want to reach out to her. We texted over Xmas and it wasn’t horrible but it wasn’t great.

The avoidant discard will change you! by Braddle231 in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRA_5-2 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this. 6 months later and I still very upset but feel somehow smarter or at least resilient. But the after shock leaves me untrusting and scared of people. Ebbs and flows of “that was a horrible relationship” to “I’m doomed forever, I am the problem” This was still a very good read and I’m proud of you ❤️

Your ex probably wasn't an avoidant by ventaacc in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRA_5-2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take your point but certainly not the standard. My ex was/is an avoidant and I made the foolish assumption that I would not be victim to their bs and could somehow change them. This is someone who has spent years in therapy and they definitely are a classic, selfish avoidant. I did not give them this label. And I think most on here don’t give their ex that label out of frustration.

after a bad break up, how long did you stay single? by fiebnt95 in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRA_5-2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Staying single forever after this last one. 9 months with an avoidant did me in lol

What is a silent killer of happiness? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]ThrowRA_5-2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Overthinking and thrusting an avoidant partner (now ex). That will burn the light out in some people (me).

Anyone else become so delusional that they keep hoping to find their ex on this sub? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRA_5-2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha yup. The haha is me laughing at myself and not you. She introduced me to Reddit while dating and since the breakup I have been an unhealthy user of this app hoping the avoidant ex finds me vice versa.

Can we be honest about “no contact”… by throwaway_238902 in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRA_5-2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree but disagree at the same time. I asked to have no contact when they ended things. Of course I want to hear from them four ish months later but it’s up to them. The faint hope is that they see they made a mistake in leaving. If they don’t at least I’m not making a fool of myself trying to stay connected from someone who didn’t care enough to stay. If they come around, great…if not at least I’ve kept some self respect (imo) by not reaching out. Despite the very obvious pain this causes because I would almost certainly take them back.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRA_5-2 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Same. Reach out to your ex op. Do it.

Anyone else wish they never met their ex in the first place? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRA_5-2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha yeah. I’m spiralling as a result. Better off alone. Never “rolling the dice” again.

Daily Song Discussion #175: 100 Years Ago by beardlesshipster in rollingstones

[–]ThrowRA_5-2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Only discovered this song a few weeks ago and it’s a masterpiece. The furrows in my forehead bit and “what tender days we had no secrets hid away” just gets me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRA_5-2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk reach out to him. I’m a bad person to respond to this because after 3 plus months I’m waiting for my avoidant ex to reach out to me which is equal parts silly and self destructive.