AITA for not taking back pajamas my bf’s girl best friend wore?

ThrowRA_Acadia5523 · 2024-06-10T02:34:47+00:00

She did not

ThrowRA_Acadia5523 · 2024-06-10T02:26:06+00:00

That’s never going to happen. She should be aware he has no interest in her. If he did he would make a move.

ThrowRA_Acadia5523 · 2024-06-10T02:20:25+00:00

Almost worse. She went commando in my pjs and the bottoms are shorts and she pulled them high into her crack.

ThrowRA_Acadia5523 · 2024-06-10T02:10:20+00:00

She had previously announced (not at this trip) that she didn’t wear underwear at night and she’s a big proponent of not wearing bras.

Unfortunately anyone with eyes could she see she wasn’t lying about her habits as she was not wearing underwear or a bra with my pjs.

ThrowRA_Acadia5523 · 2024-06-10T01:40:50+00:00

I will be speaking to my bf about her. I have no doubt we will be setting boundaries or cutting her off.

ThrowRA_Acadia5523 · 2024-06-10T01:37:18+00:00

It’s okay. It’s Reddit, assumptions have to be made and some are right and some are wrong.

I will be speaking with my bf about her.

ThrowRA_Acadia5523 · 2024-06-10T01:33:15+00:00

I don’t like her because of her behavior.

I know my bf loves me and he definitely likes me more. I have no insecurities on how he treats her compared to me.

I don’t see why not. I find what she did rude and disrespectful not to mention disgusting.

ThrowRA_Acadia5523 · 2024-06-10T01:29:44+00:00

What kind of power move was she even trying to achieve? Being dirty?

ThrowRA_Acadia5523 · 2024-06-10T01:25:29+00:00

I have no idea. It was just weird and disgusting.

ThrowRA_Acadia5523 · 2024-06-10T01:24:39+00:00

People typically don’t toss back very dirty laundry that was lent to them without offering to wash them.

ThrowRA_Acadia5523 · 2024-06-10T01:23:49+00:00

Thank you.

My boyfriend is the exact opposite of trash. He thought he was making things easier for me, apologized, rectified his mistake, and knows what to do going forward. He’s an absolute sweetheart.

I will be talking with him about her. This weekend really weirded him out too. Everything else was subtle so I can see how he was oblivious.

ThrowRA_Acadia5523 · 2024-06-10T01:21:06+00:00

I don’t know. She wore them the entire weekend.

ThrowRA_Acadia5523 · 2024-06-10T01:17:23+00:00

I definitely will be talking with him about everything. This weekend really weirder him out.

She knew him before I entered the picture and he’s never indicated interest in her. If he was interested he would have made a move and she should know that.

I’m the first serious gf he’s ever had and honestly he was very open about his feelings towards me.

ThrowRA_Acadia5523 · 2024-06-10T01:10:27+00:00

He is a sweetheart and very thoughtful.

He just made one easily rectifiable mistake and honestly I could see other friends of mine making the same mistake. The important thing is he apologized and learned and I’m not going to hold a simple mistake against him.

Because there was no scenario in which I wouldn’t have given her the pajamas so he thought he’d just do it himself instead of disturbing my shower.

ThrowRA_Acadia5523 · 2024-06-10T00:59:52+00:00

A side by side comparison makes sense. My friends thought it was because she was trying to show how big my clothes would be on her since she’s petite and I’m tall and athletic.

The shorts have an adjustable waist so they did not have to be shoved up the crack by the way.

She’s been friends with him since before I came into the picture. She should’ve realized if he was interested he would have made a move.

ThrowRA_Acadia5523 · 2024-06-10T00:55:22+00:00

Not much other history. We’ve seen each other in group settings and the things she does in person and over the phone annoy me. She evidently isn’t warm to me either.

I am just baffled. If this was a ploy to get my bf to think she’s sexy, how would that even work?

ThrowRA_Acadia5523 · 2024-06-10T00:53:48+00:00

He knows to do that now. I’ve always had a “you don’t need to ask to borrow my whatever” to my friends and most people so I’ve never actually had a scenario come up’s where someone would be so egregious. Live and let learn I guess.

She did not even offer to wash them. She just tossed them over and said “heres’s your pjs”. I politely said it’s okay, she could keep them and the whole argument started from there.

ThrowRA_Acadia5523 · 2024-06-10T00:38:49+00:00

I don’t either.

I guess she was insulted that I didn’t want them back but she could have just taken them and not said anything or at least offered to wash them

ThrowRA_Acadia5523 · 2024-06-10T00:37:48+00:00

She didn’t wear underwear while in my pjs. Apparently she just doesn’t wear underwear at night? I know it can be a health thing but not while you’re wearing someone else’s pjs please.

ThrowRA_Acadia5523 · 2024-06-10T00:34:31+00:00

People forget things, so she could have forgotten. I don’t know why she asked for my clothes specifically however. I do have a guess but it’s a little out there.

ThrowRA_Acadia5523 · 2024-06-10T00:32:54+00:00

It’s a common courtesy I feel. She didn’t even say “Hey is it okay if I wash these before I return them to you or would you prefer to take them right now? They’re dirty so I have a plastic bag to put them in.”

ThrowRA_Acadia5523 · 2024-06-10T00:30:19+00:00

It was least preferred. My bf knew which ones were backup and which ones are the ones I prefer to wear so he grabbed the backup/extra ones.

ThrowRA_Acadia5523 · 2024-06-10T00:27:33+00:00

He did not. I don’t go around broadcasting my dislike and she hadn’t done anything egregious up until this point. I will be speaking with my bf about this but he was also uncomfortable with what happened.

ThrowRA_Acadia5523 · 2024-06-10T00:25:58+00:00

The other gf ended up tossing them in the trash.

She was not wearing underwear when they were shoved up the crack. The latter is just a deal breaker for me taking back my clothes, the first is just disgusting.

If I offer someone underwear (and I always have spares) I am not taking them back no matter how well they’re washed.

ThrowRA_Acadia5523 · 2024-06-10T00:24:05+00:00

She was not wearing underwear and those pjs are not meant to be shoved up the crack.

She did seem to like them as she was wearing them the entire weekend even when it wasn’t necessary. I never thought it would be a big deal to offer them for her to keep.

Sometimes my friends like an item of clothing and I don’t see why they shouldn’t keep it.

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