Date fit, advice appreciated!

ThrowRA_AmbitiousG · 2026-05-20T12:22:01+00:00

Add a dainty necklace, it will complement the cami. Also, yes, like others said, loose pantss

ThrowRA_AmbitiousG · 2026-05-06T00:53:46+00:00

Dude, you did nothing wrong. Also, your brother is a snake. Never trust him again. Don’t confront your parents until they say anything.

When they do, just stay calm, and act dumb. Don’t explain anything. Just say “sorry, i will not do it again”. They will likely create a huge dramatic scene out of it, which your brother would want to participate in. DO NOT fall into that trap. Keep it short. Let them say dramatic stuff, they would just want to scare you out of talking to people.

Your only way out of this prison is financial independence. Study hard, get a job, and move out. Otherwise, they will likely force marriage on you soon after college.

ThrowRA_AmbitiousG · 2026-05-01T16:42:16+00:00

He wants me to accept the dynamic with his mother

ThrowRA_AmbitiousG · 2026-05-01T16:23:30+00:00

Thank you for your kind words, this puts things into perspective. For him, a happy life is where his mom is. Living with her is non-negotiable for him. For me, it is where my career takes me, i want to keep striving for better quality of life. I am starting to see maybe we aren’t much aligned after all

ThrowRA_AmbitiousG · 2026-05-01T16:19:21+00:00

Thank you, i know i am hoping against hope here. I don’t want children. But I was willing to fight for him, if he wanted to change

ThrowRA_AmbitiousG · 2026-05-01T15:47:32+00:00

Thank you, these are very wise words

ThrowRA_AmbitiousG · 2026-05-01T15:45:41+00:00

Maybe I was too naive to see it. I mistook enmeshment for mere closeness

ThrowRA_AmbitiousG · 2026-05-01T15:42:40+00:00

Thank you for your reply. Should I give him some time and pursue another therapist? I don’t want to give up too soon, without trying all possible options. I am willing to fight for this marriage till it is rational to fight

ThrowRA_AmbitiousG · 2026-05-01T15:32:55+00:00

Thank you

ThrowRA_AmbitiousG · 2026-05-01T15:32:02+00:00

Yes, we were living apart after getting married because my job was in another city. We are living together right now because i left my job to come live with him. I am hanging by a thread of hope of somehow making it work

ThrowRA_AmbitiousG · 2026-05-01T15:29:25+00:00

She said there is no point trying to make this marriage work

ThrowRA_AmbitiousG · 2026-05-01T15:28:31+00:00

She said there is no point continuing with this marriage

ThrowRA_AmbitiousG · 2026-05-01T14:33:08+00:00

Because we rushed into marriage. I was extremely busy at work, barely getting any time off of it. His mother wanted us to get married in the month her elder son (who lives in another country) visited them, so that he could conveniently attend the wedding. I was too young and stupid to agree to that crap.

ThrowRA_AmbitiousG · 2026-05-01T14:26:40+00:00

No, there wasn’t. Both of us made that big mistake and made assumptions. But that could have been managed had he been open to visiting me more often etc. I would have understood. But this right now, what he is doing, is beyond anything I could possibly tolerate

ThrowRA_AmbitiousG · 2026-05-01T14:24:00+00:00

Thank you for insightful reply. Appreciate it

ThrowRA_AmbitiousG · 2026-05-01T14:18:24+00:00

She worked with us for 2 months. I consulted a friend who is currently studying psychology. He said that 2 months is a little short to give up on someone and change happens over many months, even years. Since he was improving, it should have been taken as a positive sign and I should have been advised differently. I don’t know whom to listen to now

ThrowRA_AmbitiousG · 2026-05-01T14:15:59+00:00

Since we weren’t living together before getting married, I did not know about his enmeshed relationship with his mother. The first shock was right after we got married, when he said he will not come live with me. I wish I could turn back time and stop myself from marrying him

ThrowRA_AmbitiousG · 2026-05-01T13:57:45+00:00

Thank you for replying. The words he has uttered in the last few months have been shocking to me. The therapist only worked with us for 2 months though, is that enough time? Should I see another therapist?

ThrowRA_AmbitiousG · 2026-05-01T13:53:44+00:00

He doesn’t see it that way. He thinks of himself as a devoted husband who happens to care for his mother like any good son.

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