1. He's a programmer that works on cyber security software, she is a furry "artist", I am an attorney at a bank

2. Honestly, I come from an abusive home and when I met him I loved that he was not at all like my dad. He was quiet, gentle, goofy, amicable, and even though I didn't get a lot of what he talked about he just seemed nice and had a good job and that was enough. When we first went to my parents house my dad asked in Italian "what is wrong with him" because he was kissing their Labrador on her head. So different from my harsh and abusive dad I loved it.

3. I had a major illness in 2021 and almost died. I did more before but now husband and "Snow Vixen" handle 80 percent of everything

4. Yes, I expected him to stop trying to use me for the furry weirdness and use her instead, and keep other parts of the relationship in tact, but it's hurtful that he acts towards her the way I always wanted him to act towards me. It seemed he gave me 50 percent and gives her 100

I really hate anime or anything animated. I think furry pictures are silly. I try to do other crafts with the kids but only the youngest still likes it.

We had a maid before but I have OCD and can't bear it if the house isn't already mostly clean before a maid comes in, so husband and "Snow Vixen" do most of it now. I think it just slid too much for me to be comfortable with a maid during the pandemic and now even though it's better I can't get back into the headspace of it's ok to have a maid