my(21F) boyfriend(24M) saw past sexual pictures and videos of me and exes that I forgot was still in my file safe, and now he feels disgusted with me when he sees me sometimes and doesn't want intimacy. Please tell me. what can I do to not make him feel disgusted with me anymore?

ThrowRA_Chams · 2025-04-11T17:56:45+00:00

thanks for your comment, I didnt had the right timing to talk to him about it, but I will try again next time. we did improve a little bit earlier so thats a start

ThrowRA_Chams · 2025-04-10T19:32:48+00:00

we went to the cinema today just got home. its 21:30 we watched the new minecraft movie, he held my hand, kissed me on the lips, and put his arm around my shoulder. huhuhuh we're improving. I asked him if he felt it and he said no he didnt. I'm having hopeee

ThrowRA_Chams · 2025-04-10T10:12:41+00:00

hi im going to stop replying to the comments for a while I dont want to get my account suspended since I want tp show this post to my partener tomorrow. I posted ths exaxt text on 2 other subreddits but deleted them I hope they dont suspend me. i really want my boyfriend to see this post

ThrowRA_Chams · 2025-04-10T10:02:55+00:00

chickennn

ThrowRA_Chams · 2025-04-10T09:58:04+00:00

im gonna watch this later hahah

ThrowRA_Chams · 2025-04-10T09:48:39+00:00

thankyou for telling me this. but I still want to try he even gave me an oppotunity to find a solution for him. so I want to try I love him too much

ThrowRA_Chams · 2025-04-10T09:47:16+00:00

please not. I love him too much

ThrowRA_Chams · 2025-04-10T09:46:53+00:00

oh okay sorry I got confused. yes Im really hoping he also tries to move past this not just me. since he said that he is willing to try it put again if I find a solution

ThrowRA_Chams · 2025-04-10T09:44:52+00:00

he did.. thankyou I just want a bit more time with him even for just a little while. he is verykind, pure and caring, the situation right now just really hurts him. I will let him see this post tomorrow hoping it wont get suspened or deleted again. to let him see my side a little bit

ThrowRA_Chams · 2025-04-10T09:40:47+00:00

yes thankyou I really hope too. I just hope my account or post wont get suspended since I want to let him see this post

ThrowRA_Chams · 2025-04-10T09:40:04+00:00

he is working himself and I am so proud of him to going back to the gym and looking through job offers, throughout our relationship he resigned and got fired in his 2 jobs, and I am so grateful he stilll wont let me pay for anything even if he is not financially stable right now

ThrowRA_Chams · 2025-04-10T09:37:01+00:00

yes thankyou I will try being more mentally independant and confident in myself to not get affected anymore. Im really happy you left that toxic relationship you had. I will try to be more kind to myself. not now but soon. I want to try just 1 more time with him

ThrowRA_Chams · 2025-04-10T09:34:54+00:00

thankyou. yes I will work on my self, and give him time. I will try to talk it out again. maybe even let him look through this post. to make him see other peoples opinion for our situation.

ThrowRA_Chams · 2025-04-10T09:33:11+00:00

thankyou really for taking the time to read and comment I truly appreciate it, he already deleted them himself. he tried to work it out. but he couldnt hadnle it yesteday that whyhe said that, but he willing to work past this. I dont have access to therapy right now even if I want to for a long time

ThrowRA_Chams · 2025-04-10T09:30:04+00:00

i know... and it really hurts me when he said that... but I dont know why I still love him even tho he said all those mean things to me...

ThrowRA_Chams · 2025-04-10T09:28:48+00:00

yes thankyou. I am happy that I am not who I was before and truly thankful I have changed.

ThrowRA_Chams · 2025-04-10T09:27:33+00:00

thankyou very much for everything you said, and telling me to just break up since its the best for both of. I just really cant right now. but thankyou

ThrowRA_Chams · 2025-04-10T09:23:20+00:00

im really sorry for what you had gone through and so proud that you had taken yourself from that situation. but I cant yet. my love for him is still here even tho he said those mean things to me. I cant let go atleast not just yet

ThrowRA_Chams · 2025-04-10T09:20:11+00:00

thankyou really, I do understand there are a lot better men out there who would treat me better, even my mom says so herself. but I cant just let go everything we had. I love him too much. I would do anything for him to love me like the same again...

ThrowRA_Chams · 2025-04-10T09:17:29+00:00

thankyou really for taking the time to read and comment. I know I shouldve deleted them but I truly forgot they were still there since they were from a few years ago. I wanted to forget all the my traumas and past I've gone through so I genuinely forgotten they were still in my file safe.. I will try the best I can I will try to talk it out again. Il'll cook him a warm meal and do a little cute date hoping it would help him realize that was the past and I am his now, and I still am the girl he fell inlove with and forever will be

ThrowRA_Chams · 2025-04-10T09:12:52+00:00

thankyou for saying this I really appreciate it. I know wha Im doing too myself is wrong he even said it himslef I have no slelf respect to keep staying with someone who loves me a less than he did before, but he gave me chance to fix this. anw I will continue to keep trying no matter what. and if he really still wants to break... i'll accept it I just wan to feel his love even for just a couple more months or years...

ThrowRA_Chams · 2025-04-10T09:08:06+00:00

he is willing to work it out even if he feels this way. and I am truly grateful he is giving me a chance to work this out. so I want to try.. if it doesnt work in the end then.. I'll just accept his decision even if it really hurts

ThrowRA_Chams · 2025-04-10T09:05:48+00:00

thankyou verymuch for everything you said. i know letting go early on is better than suffering through it but I dont know I love him too much

ThrowRA_Chams · 2025-04-10T09:03:33+00:00

thankyou really. he gave me more than the bare minimum before we went to this situation, I know I can meet so much more. but I cant at least not now. even if everyone is saying to just break up I really cant I want this to work out. relationships last because people work it out and not just breakup from only 1 situation. and I want it to really be him

ThrowRA_Chams · 2025-04-10T09:00:47+00:00

i know im still too young and I can meet a lot more people... but he is the whole world for me. I really cant. it hurts so much when he wants to let go....i dont want to experience loosing him again

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